Beginners come into Seduction with the mindset that it is an independent skillset. It is something you can turn on and off, and dividends (i.e., hot naked girls) will magically appear for you.
As many other things in this blog, I am here to dispel that myth. Seduction and specifically Daygame is an aspect of your life that you cannot fully optimize without conscious planning. Beginners should know the tradeoffs of the International Playboy lifestyle and consciously be able to commit to it. Because to reach the peaks, “normal life” is completely incompatible. Serious sacrifices have to be made in the emotional side of things, but also on the Logistical side of life planning. We will explore the latter part.
Normal Life and Seduction
First, let’s investigate the cap normal life adds to seduction. Let’s take the average full-time office worker in London and put his life under the microscope.
The average work occupies 8 to 8.30 hours from his daily life (30 mins for unpaid lunch break). Then a typical commute can be assumed to be another 1.30 hour for that day. On top, adding 2 more hours for winding down for bed and waking up in the morning. Our average person has 12 hours of his life not under his control, or roughly put, 4 hours of daily agency.
These numbers can be give or take, but realistically speaking, a difference between 4 or 6 hours (the pragmatic cap under the 8-8-8, work-life-sleep model) makes no difference for our calculations.
Our amigo in question, therefore, has 4 hours to place all his hobbies, interests, and importantly dating. If he has a date for that day, the date will occupy his entire day and therefore he cannot do other approaches. If he is out Daygaming for those 4 hours, his Daygame has to be in the evening (after 5 or 6pm), and any idate he goes has extra time pressure and harder logistics if he wants to maintain a healthy lifestyle on meals and sleep.
Now, out of those 4 hours of Daygame, assuming 3 approaches per hour, can realistically net him a date on average. Not bad, but…
- Can he be at his A game? Our plan assumed no rest or downtime after work.
- Can he sustain this? He has to sacrifice all his daily time for work and Daygame only.
- Can he digest it emotionally? Daygame is already hard, and now he has to make do with bad logistics on top of that.
Despite, let’s ignore all this; maybe magically he can solve all his issues. Let’s investigate results instead. In the course of a week, our Player in question can net about 3 dates (on the upper end of his results), with Sunday, let’s say, being a buffer day to swallow any variance.
Now, if he is good, 3 dates can realistically, on average, net him between 0.5-1 lay, so this is a significant payoff. But I don’t think even top Daygamers can sustain results under this lifestyle.
Now, on the other hand, our friend traded his entire life for one week to net 3 dates. Just 3 dates. And this assumes professional Daygame results. For the average person, it will be much, much worse.
Beyond normality
As you can see, the normal life already caps your Daygame results. Here is your first question. What do you want out of life?
Because if making it at Daygame is so important to you, you need to work less. There is no other alternative. You need more time in your life. The most successful model I know is immersion-based, a few months of hard work, then a frugal work-free life for the rest of the year. But by definition, this is not the life that will build you a massive stock portfolio or make you a director at your company.
The Daygame ethos is built on freedom. The famous Player stories maximized for freedom, not for status.
The Vibe side of the Equation
Back to our office worker example, we made a big simplification that he can “just” take care of the accumulated emotional strain. Well, this is false.
Our worker has to deal with work stress, then the constant ups and downs of approaching and rejection, then the same times two during the date. He will have to brave near misses, imperfect logistics, and all the craziness that accompanies being with women for too long.
Take my word, his vibe will crush within a 2-week period. If he is really devoted, maybe he will last a month. Because vibe is not a magical thing, maintaining a good vibe is an outcome of life decisions.
Sleep
Sleep has roughly 3 purposes:
- Pass information to long term memory.
- Repair the damaged body.
- Emotional regulation.
All three are majorly important, and although it is tempting to focus only on the last one, you should sleep for all three reasons.
Points 1 and 2 happen during deep sleep, a process that begins around the 2nd hour and is mostly complete by the 6th hour of sleep. While Point 3 is loaded for the latter half of the sleep, the REM sleep, with 80% happening on 6th to 8th hour of sleep.
But don’t take blog scientific mambo jambo just like this, go test it yourself. For one week, let yourself sleep for as long as you like. Then the next day, sleep for 5 hours. Your entire state will crush. You will be emotionally much more vulnerable, think less clearly, and instinctively avert your eyes when making eye contact with others.
There are many ways to interpret this, but if you ask me, the 5-hour sleep guy cannot even do Daygame in this state. The next time you hear people praising sleeplessness, remember the relevant statistic that people who average less than 6 hours of sleep have significantly shorter life spans [Why We Sleep – Matthew Walker].
Purpose
Daygame is based on Agency. That is a core Red Pill tenet and doubly true on a form of Game that emphasizes freedom. The concepts work empirically because purpose is a core characteristic of the Male Psyche.
Now, we don’t need to be enlightened buddhist monks, but a self-sourced project, based on your creativity, like writing a book or this blog itself, will do wonders for your vibe.
Once you taste the true gifts of Male need for “creation”, you will never be able to see the world the same way. The modern workplace that takes away all agency, and most importantly, all interpersonal connections, is slavery to levels never seen before in human history.
No Roman slave or plantation worker was so psychicaly oppressed as the modern office worker. At the end of the day, life was closer to nature, and people always had the option to escape society and opt out. Now all space is owned by one State or another. People are not allowed any form of subsistence that doesn’t go through the state’s purse (taxation) or is mediated via the State (benefits). The problem is not city life itself; the problem is that there is no other life available than the disgrace of city life.
These are two examples I am personally highly opinionated on, but smarter people than me would also argue on:
- Diet
- Gym and exercise
- Human connections
- Financial freedom
This doesn’t complete the list, but it is a good baseline to ask the question: Is the life that you are leading now, working for, or against the concepts (holistically) we just discussed?
Against lifestyle status
The previous sections were focused on what prevents people from entering the Player lifestyle. Now, let us address the distortions of that lifestyle.
The Daygame dream
You take the weekend off from your busy life, you arrive in Prague on a Friday evening. You already have plans with your buddies to hit the streets. Lo and behold, Saturday comes, and you have a hot date. It matures to a 3-hour lay, and you see her again on Sunday. Later that day, you have to say a half-heartbroken goodbye (from her side, you are too cool to care) and take your flight back home for your busy work on Monday.
Is that the dream? Fuck no.
That whole life is not practical. Too many things are crammed into too little time. Too much emotional volatility to digest in a small time. The principles of this article apply here: You cannot feel emotional reward without an emotional negative.
You cannot have that life without turning into a soulless robot. The numbers just don’t add up. It is not even your vibe diminishing; it is you making bad decisions.
But still, that lifestyle is being sold as the dream: the dream of having everything. The girl, the job, the money, the lifestyle, proper high value!
As everything with internet marketing, it is a status game, either from Players trying to deceive you or, even worse, by non-Players trying to deceive you. The value proposition is obvious, so people can hook and bite. This is the hedonistic type of value, because they cannot advertise the calm, background value that Daygame eventually adds to your life.
The Daygame Value
I remind the readers of this article that goes into depth on how Game adds value to your life on a practical level.
Let us expand and investigate the meta-concepts. For the people who gravitate to Daygame, Daygame is a tool of freedom. It provides geographical independence and release of multiple biochemicals with regards to mating that significantly hinder the male otherwise. Finally, independence itself is a mark of power.
My happiest moments in life were when I had a cheap bachelor apartment, centrally located, and living frugally. Not when I had overpriced luxury apartments and a job title to match. The former is only possible with Daygame. Once you enable it, you will see how little you need beyond sleep and food to be happy.
However, to realize all of those benefits, it is imperative to not trap yourself into artificial scarcity. The person who fucks 7 girls in 7 days, doesn’t have time to truly enjoy the experience emotionally. To cram so much adrenaline and emotional instability, he needs to numb himself. The achievement is just for status, and the sexual release aside, he probably didn’t enjoy it that much.
Give yourself time to enjoy the girls. Don’t chase dopamine spike after dopamine spike (or do it in moderation… we all have our phases). Spread it out and mix it with other vibe-enhancing aspects. Girls are just the cherry on top; this is the result that all Players arrive at.
