It is easy to get lost and underestimate how much value Game adds to your life. Getting control of your love life is one of the deepest male pain points. It matters, or should matter to every man as a first priority, even beyond other areas of life such as wealth or gym. Honestly, ask yourself: if your fundamental core on how to connect with the opposite sex is rotten, how will you enjoy your millions or your biceps?
Predictably, the narrative in public discourse is the exact opposite of reality, i.e., about how much success everyone supposedly gets. It is even worse online, where success is abundant and lays are 10 a penny. Even the dwarf with one ear and 3 teeth can get laid online, so how can you not? Horseshit of the highest order of course. It just distorts the idea of what success looks like. With the result that new Players don’t know what is enough and can’t accurately measure their progress.
But destroying this misconception: “sex is everywhere, and you have been missing out” is among the most fundamental Inner Game leaps. The reality is, yes, sex does happen out there. And a lot of it. It is for Women, Alphas, and Naturals. These are the three categories that get easy sex. That is the so-called Secret Society. If you are not getting consistent action in your life so far, you are not in this category. This is you, and at least 99% of men. Don’t sweat over it, blame nature. Therefore, welcome to Deep Bottom, where sex is indeed scarce. Game is our only ticket out of that world.
Making it in Game is a precious achievement, because getting any control of your sex life, for you, who wasn’t born an Alpha or a Natural, is something that takes work and effort. And it will never be easy; we are literally going against nature’s plan.
How much sex is fictional?
To appreciate the value Game brings to your life, it is best to think by contrast. The first step in dispelling the myth of infinite sex is putting it into perspective with numbers. Let’s do rough statistics to estimate this. We only need to be approximately correct and estimate within order of magnitude to get the picture.
Estimation 1
The first calculation comes from Krauser. The quoted article provides the methodology we will use.
As of 2025, Gen Z (ages 16-30) is about 25% of the population globally. The proportion is even less in the West because of the collapsing fertility rates, but we will go with this number simply to create an upper bound. About half of them are girls and half are guys. Hence, 12.5% of an average country can be assumed to be sexually available females in their prime.
According to EU data, about half the population is overweight and obese. Let us assume 50% of girls in Gen Z are within normal weight limits (and this already doesn’t match my empirical evidence). Therefore, from a starting point of 12.5%, only half, let’s say 7% are not fat.. For all we know, she might be missing a tooth, but we will roll with it if she is thin.
We will now go with Krauser and assume that girls accumulate 1 lay per year on average. Half of those lays are flings, and half of them are within relationships. To put this in perspective, this means that each girl will accumulate 24 lifetime lays for the fertile years of 16-40. This already overshoots sex surveys, keeping it consistent with our upper bound approach. In short, for any given year, half of our 7% population will be served in relationships, and the other half will be available for casual sex. Therefore, 3.5% of the population of women is hot enough and available for adventure sex.
Now, let us define Player success. A Player can accumulate multiple lays per year, but let us say he needs at least 5 to be worthy of the name (that number is intentionally low). Let’s take it one step further and assume no Players get more than 5 lays. Each gets exactly 5. That means, the whole adventure sex market is cannibalized by 0.7% of men, as 3.5%/5 = 0.7%.
Therefore, any given country cannot sustain more than 0.7% of men being Players. It is not about skill at this point; it is about how much casual sex women can supply the market. And remember, we significantly overestimated. The real number is much, much smaller.
Estimation 2
This idea comes from the book “Sex and Rank” by Sergei Morozov. It attempts to estimate sexual encounters based on condom sales.
Let’s take Europe. Europe has a population of 450 million as of 2024, with 376 (or 84%) of those above age 18. This nets 188 million sexually active males.
According to the internet in 2024, there were 3.9 billion condoms sold. Condom usage varies widely across studies, but most seem to agree that at minimum 50% of people use condoms. Let us use this minimum, and assume only half of sex happens with a condom on. Since we had 3.9 billion condoms sold in Europe, this nets an estimate of 7.8 billion sexual encounters. Dividing by the number of males… then, each male gets an allowance of 41 sexual encounters for that year.
That 41 sounds like a high number, but most sex happens within relationships. Let us try to estimate this. Relationships vary from “sex every single day” to the dreaded “sexless marriage”. We will make the executive decision and assume the average relationship has 2 sexual encounters per week.
In the course of a year, that relationship eats up… 52 weeks x 2… 104 sexual encounters. This is about 2.5 times the male sexual allowance, which was 41. Let us be lenient and assume that for every couple out there, there is a man who is left with zero for that year.
The question, therefore, becomes… how many couples are there? Europe estimates have this at 45%. Since each couple consumes twice the Male’s yearly sex allowance, 45% of couples account for 90% of total sex. It also means that there is only 10% of available sex left for the 55% of the remaining men. No wonder adventure sex is so difficult.
The work required to get a lay
If people are shocked by the previous section, I remind the audience that genetic studies estimate only 14-30% of men reproduced, ever. Reproducing can mean as little as sticking your dick in a girl only once in your lifetime. Technically, by our estimations, the modern world certainly outperforms prehistory.
We return to Daygame. Authors (Krauser and Bodi) have written plenty about why 1 girl a month from Game is a lot, and why 2 girls a month is really a lot. I agree. Simply from the practical side of things. Every Daygame lay needs 30-60 approaches for even the best of us. And that is when our vibe is on point. Just how much can you be on the streets without turning into a soulless approach machine?
Earlier in the year, it took me 70 sets and 16 dates to get a lay. The 16 dates of course are an outlier, but the 70 approaches are not (… not that much). This happened over 1 month with a lazy work rate and life commitments in the background. Assuming that is an average experience to get a lay …how many copies of this rollercoaster can you emotionally handle compressed in a month to get multiple lays?
That is why, as Daygamers, we have periods of multiple lays in bursts and periods of cooling down and approach revulsion. High lay counts in small periods of time (for example, 3 lays per month) are not sustainable over the long run. The work is just too much. In particular, the initial rush aside, how much happiness do people get from a one-and-done situation? Or even a fuckbuddy situation. Here is where you need to put your Ego aside, and decide if you are gonna live your life aimed at hedonism and impressing people on the internet, or live the life based on your body’s needs. Sure, go wild for some time, but when that ends, honestly ask yourself, how much do you value meaningless sex just for the dopamine spike?
I personally always have a better time in LTRs. My limit was 3 LTRs simultaneously; I could even slot girls in and out of LTRs as I wanted. This is true freedom and control of love life without racking up 500 notches. This concept has been immortalised by John Bodi as follows:
- Q: “How much would you pay for two guaranteed 7s every year for the rest of your life ?”
- A: “My entire bank account and my mother’s house.”
We have it better in Daygame
In Daygame, we maintain multiple advantages over other forms of Game. For all intents and purposes, we have better flexibility in navigating girls for our needs. Let us put this into perspective, Daygame is:
- Highly mobile, or location independent
- High novelty, as we can meet different nationalities and types of girls. The club and online demographics are much more limited.
- Very fast and with low maintenance post lay.
- Better control over the quality of the girls we meet. And I mean mental qualities, not only beauty.
Take a Nightgamer. To get 3-4 lays a month, he has to go to the club 8-12 times. This is assuming a high close rate of one lay per 2-3 nights out. Can you go consistently out that many times, maintain your A game, and not destroy the rest of your life? How many of those girls are quality and not brainless and boring?
For a Social Game Player: Lead acquisition is out of your control; you don’t know when girls will fall into your circle. On top, seduction is slow, and good luck managing LTRs and fuckbudies in the same circle afterwards. One mistake and the whole thing blows up in your face.
For Online Game, I can make an exception in the work rate. Lays do happen very fast there… but how many of those girls do you respect as human beings and not as pieces of meat? Also, there is a very high chance you will underperform your SMV because hypergamy is truly let loose there. Go fuck 100 sluts, and you might actually end up more broken than when you started.
Bottom line
The reality is the one in front of your eyes. The reality is not the experiences and the stories of other Players. And more importantly, the reality is not on the internet. If you find it hard to get a lay, it is because it is indeed hard to get a lay. This is fair, this is the world, and this is reality for you specifically, with your current SMV, and the amount of investment you want to give Game right now. You are not missing out, and there are no shortcuts. We all work hard for our lays. Eventually, and with skill, the work/benefit balance is to our advantage, but there is still work that must be done if we want results.
A few quality lays can entirely transform your life. Game is worth it. The infamous 1000 sets of hell in Daygame are worth it. Very few Players claim more than 10 lays in those 1000, and that is okay. For me specifically, it was 8, and 6 of those happened in the last 200 sets. Because my life entirely changed. It didn’t take 100 lays for it; it took 8. Every lay after that was out of choice, for novelty and limit testing. It wasn’t a necessity.
As a non-Alpha or Natural, life had decided for you to be either hard or impossible to get laid. Breaking out of this is a massive achievement. You qualify for that achievement from “just” getting a handful of lays: you already outperformed your nature, good job! Going one step further and controlling your love life, with options and power to manage your relationships and LTRs, is so far out of nature’s plans for you. It is truly getting away with it.
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