I remind the readers of one of the insights of this article: Game is worth it only if it is meant to be used repeatedly. Nothing groundbreaking here, any skillset with a harsh learning curve is only worth it if the practitioners reach and reap the rewards of mastering said skillset. In Game this would translate into a system that can relatively consistently bring new sex partners into the man’s life.
In particular, Game is not worth it if all the man is looking for is a relationship. Take your run of the mill lovey dovey friend. He jumps from relationship to relationship, each being multi-year, maybe accumulating like 5-10 partners in his lifetime. Game is just useless for this guy. Mastering the skillset itself is not worth the investment, because the “just find a girlfriend” task can be fulfilled by dumb luck alone. And it does so way more efficiently than Game would at that.
Actually, my advice for that guy would be to look for “get rich quick” equivalents (for Game). He can only interact with the surface-level tenets of Game, maybe also invest in some SMV improvement (like gym), and just wait for life to deliver a girl to his bedroom. The bar to just get a girl, any girl, is truly low. Given some basic value, luck, and time, it will happen. For the virgin at 40s looking for a relationship, there really are “get rich quick schemes” because his bar is low.
Don’t believe me? Check the following four ticks:
- Some financial stability (i.e., not piss poor)
- Not fat (lightly overweight at most)
- At least somewhat sociable (ability to access a few new pools of people per month)
- Drop your standards and focus on 6s and 7s
Then in the next 2-3 years (probably sooner), that guy will have a girlfriend.
Big intro, huh? Is my point to convince you to lower your standards and just settle with a girl given the least amount of effort possible?
No. My point is this guy above, he is the problem. I will explain all the issues with his life choices. Game is not an option to “take it or leave it” as lifestyle. Game is the mandatory choice if the man doesn’t have other means to find girls in his life. As you will see, this lovey dovey guy’s life is a living hell; he is living a downtrodden life just to plug a girl.
Relationships are long-term impossible; there are structural biological limitations, and you will have to sacrifice to maintain a relationship. I am not typing this to promote said self-sacrifice; I am typing this to make the point that relationships are fundamentally inadequate to aid your life. You cannot rely on them long term; the life of the player is Sisyphean because life made men that way, and there is no realistic alternative.
The Herbivore
Have you ever seen a lion, let’s call him Mitch. He decides to abandon his hunt and love for antelopes, and decides to be a herbivore instead. He eats grass every day. Maybe a bug here and there as well if he can get his paws on one. Keep it for a few months, and Mitch might even turn green, swapping colors from his prior proud yellow.
Does Mitch command respect? Does a lion that forfeits its feral nature sound like a proud being to you? Mitch is a cockroach in the full sense of the word, a rat, and a downtrodden. But… Mitch is also a man, a particular type of man.
Many a visitor in Mediterranean, parts of Slavic Europe, or Asia, might see unassuming men with high-value girls, maybe the man is a goggle-eyed software developer, a Beta in the full sense of the world, and the girl is near supermodel in looks. Maybe the guy is rich, but still there is a real value gap between the two. How is that possible?
As with all world models, what is, is. If your world model doesn’t predict what is, then your model is wrong; the world is never wrong. In this case, however, the data are wrong, not our model: the marketplace is not skewed, even in those countries. Our Beta friend, indeed, might have gotten a girlfriend, but at what cost?
- How many dates did it take before sex?
- Is she a nagging bitch to him? How much effort does he exert to maintain such a relationship?
- Can he realistically walk out? She would walk out on a whim. Also, has/will she cheat on him?
- And most of all: is she acting as a positive force on his life? Or is she for all terms and purposes a liability for his life long term.
Honestly, ask yourself, is this guy happy? Is his spirit thriving, or is he being suppressed in every way possible? The fate of the Beta is the fate of the Beta. He is the herbivore, the green lion Mitch. Him plugging a hottie does not change the rules of the game for him. And as all players will know, plugging a girl gets boring fast.
I remind the readers of the genetic fact that male reproduced at rates of 14-30% (depending on the study) vs 80%+ for females. The marketplace is the marketplace, and the marketplace has no sympathy for Mitch. This is the life of the relationship guy from the earlier section… at best. And in contrast, Game was created to counter exactly that state. Game is not a tool for plugging pussy, you can go to a prostitute for that. Game is a tool for lifting you from this rat-like condition.
This section covered all relationships that are based on the man having zero control over the situation, so we can actually focus on the healthy side of relationships and things. As a given, from now on, I assume the man is Game, Red Pill, or otherwise, aware of the deleterious effects that women could have in his life if mismanaged. The deleterious part here is referred to his spirit much more than his material well-being.
Symbiosis or not?
When people think of sustainable, life-aiding LTRs, what do they think of, really? Essentially, a Symbiotic relationship between a man and a woman. The woman adds to the man’s life, aiding his mission and his development, while the man is adding to the woman’s relationship by the status, resources, and direction he brings. Too idealistic, ain’t it?
Aside: Sadly, there are two ways to misdirect Red Pill. The first one is to tone it down and mix it with Blue Pill delusions, something that has been dubbed Purple Pill from Rollo. Fair enough, for the experienced guy, that is easy to spot.
What is harder to spot, however… is this mythical image of the woman that you are not getting because you are low value. Essentially, beating you on the head with the fact that “Blue Pill ideals” exist, but not for everyone… only for the guy at the very top and only for the very high value female. The mythical nurturer and lively woman sits at the very top, invisible to all but the chosen few men.
Horseshit theory, of course, there is no grand conspiracy aimed at hiding the high-value women from you and price-tag them behind exclusive parties and socio-economic curtains. The high value woman is just a prettier version of her low value equivalent. Not more wise, smart or educated (in a useful way).
To debunk this idealistic myth, that relationships can be symbiotic, let us see what actual symbiosis looks like. True symbiosis between species in nature is a very stable relationship. Either the partners don’t switch, or when they switch, it is purely based on utilitarian reasons (corals and algae). In fact, even when the species are not assigned to exclusive partners, the ecosystem operates on a free market non-discriminatory basis, for example, cleaner and client fish.
Let us look at the actual human-like relationships. Long term relationships tend to destabilize over time; any economic-esque models applied to it assume a very discriminatory basis (i.e., participants try to optimize assignment, this is the SMP theory). And more importantly, even when societal forces are applied for the purpose of maintaining the relationship, even then, they tend to destabilize, a point proven in full from the no-fault divorce experiment.
Therefore, I ask you now? What makes people believe that human relationships can operate on a Symbiotic (long-term) basis?
Clarification: short-term beneficial arrangements is what we observe. I am not attacking this point; I am attacking the relationship that is meant to last more than 2 years.
The mechanics of pair-bonding
It is a sad fact of medicine that the brain doesn’t operate on philosophical ideals. Those are meant to be upheld despite the brain’s hardware running against it. Therefore, what is the hardware of the brain? Relationships are operating on three axes.
Lust
This is the part about sex. It is the most ancient part of the brain, and it is regulated by the deep unconscious part of the brain, i.e., the cerebrum (just above the back of your neck).
Pretty simple to prove, right? Otherwise, we could consciously control our orgasms or boners like we can control thought, movement, and to a certain extent emotions. But orgasms operate like heartbeats, where we have little control over.
Dopamine
Dopamine is the “happy chemical” of variable reward. If the reward is not planned, then it is dopamine. To put it into words, this would be the rush of excitement, the anticipation of something good.
This is the main chemical that motivates early dating.
Oxytocin
Mistakenly dubbed as the love chemical, this is the “happy chemical” that rewards belonging. Practically, it feels like passive satisfaction, but it is better understood by its negative side, i.e., oxytocin withdrawal, felt when someone is ostracized from a group or refused entry into a group. When you hear about peer-pressure, it is about someone being held under the gun from the view of oxytocin punishment.
Aside: Don’t confuse the feeling of oxytocin with the entry to a new group or meeting new people. That is dopaminergic, as you don’t know those people and what your interaction with them entails. Oxytocin is in force later on, as bonds foster.
Oxytocin regulates the medium to late stages of relationships.
Therefore, we have 3 directional mechanisms in the brain that direct the feeling of relationships… what can we make out of that?
Relationships change over time
Dating a girl, inadvertently, will move from a predominantly dopamine to a predominantly oxytocin sport. The excitement will fade away, no matter what your Game is, how smart she is, how hot she is, and everything in between. This is the fate of all relationships. The honeymoon phase will finish, she will become boring, and you will likely maintain it more out of the threat of oxytocin withdrawal, rather than proactivity, i.e., search of dopamine rush.
Do you see this now? Absence of dopamine implies unproactive behaviour. Dopamine is the motivating force of action. Dating back all the way to ancient worms with their primitive neural system:
- Dopamine: signal of hunger, command the worm to search for food.
- Oxytocin: signal of a full belly, command the worm to be passive.
When the relationship turns to oxytocin based, you will become bored of her. Period. You will become bored to act proactively, and you will only act re-actively.
If you want more out of it, you will have to swim upriver. I will let you figure out how to do this, but it will always feel worse than plugging a new girl.
Even psychology, which I am usually against, has empirically observed this. They call it as passionate vs companionate love, but it just encodes the dopamine vs oxytocin motivation:
Yeah, you need to work on your time scale buddy
If you ask me, the passionate phase lasts at best 6 months to a year, then things stabilize into the oblivion of borderline boredom (unless energy is actively thrown into the relation).
You can have… multiple!
The second key realization is that all three brain areas regulating lust, dopamine, and oxytocin are loosely connected… at best. In short, you can fuck one girl, date another, and maintain and LTR with a 3rd. All this without introducing major friction in your brain.
Based on the insight above, it is actually mandatory to have multiple girls. Because your long-term girl won’t be able to fill the “dating” aspect of excitement, and vice versa for the companionate aspect. That is why Game is Sisyphian, that is why the need for Game and acquiring new girls will never go away. One girl is not enough to guarantee all the 3 neurochemical holes celibacy creates.
Game as life enhancing skillset
A deeper discussion is warranted here. Because the intro of this article argued for using Game as a life-enhancing strategy, not as an end in itself. This was the tragedy of the Beta, putting the results first. Let us now see why.
Celibacy, in short, implies chemical withdrawal corresponding to the three major areas implied above, but what does that mean?
- Absence of sex (lust): In short, it fucks your brain hard. Testosterone drops, and Cortisol increases to the point that your entire nervous system operates in survival mode. Myriad of other effects trickle down from those two. A man who is not fucking… simply is not a man. He is a chemical cocktail of anxiety and depression waiting to explode.
- Absence of Dopamine: This is translated loosely as absence of color in your life. The sauce to make life vibrant and exciting. Induce it from a relationship and use it as a motivating force for your entire life and its projects.
- Absence of Oxytocin: Oxytocin signals stability and satisfaction. See the random adrenaline junkie, he lives a life of ups and downs. But at the end of the day, he lives a life of tail chasing, he is never satisfied and always hungry for more. Without some sense of stability, you are much more directed to whims of luck and instability. The ups and downs will hit harder and make mood swings violently in equal measure.
Do you see it now? This is the true value of Game for the rest of your life. Girls are a catapult, but they are a mandatory catapult. Miss a category and the consequences are real.
The fate of Civilization
To close out this article, I will leave you with an idea from the book “Socialism” from Ludwig von Mises, himself a member of the Austrian school of Economics – possibly the best school of thought, if you ask me.
He was extending Freud when he observed that marriage was a pact between man and civilization. It was the sacrifice of sexual energy from its natural direction into girls, to a civilization-building force. Men and women had to endure self-inflicted agony by accepting marriage, but the release of sexual energy would be for the benefit of society. A noble thought if you ask me, and I truly believe that it is way closer to the truth than all other interpretations.
But I ask of you, now in 2026, inflicting yourself with agony, where do you release your sexual energy? Is there a Civilization you wish to advance? Don’t you see the decline everywhere? Will that Civilization give back anything to you, even a nod of appreciation? Or will it discard you on the first opportunity?
Then, for the love of God, don’t indulge yourself in a broken system. Abstain from self-inflicted agony and don’t settle into a broken relationship. Use Game as a life-enhancing force; we outlined the biological limitations in detail, that is your true aim!
