We can identify the birth of Greek philosophy as the intellectual breakthrough that established the Masculine spirit and broke the earlier Matriarchy. In this essay, we will discuss the preconditions and the mechanics for such a revolution.
In this article, we already showed that gender dynamics are the central issue of all political systems. This already gives us the first insight on where to look for:
Philosophy and Social Programming are gender issues: the culmination of Male and Female worldviews.
Gender issues are tied to politics.
Therefore, both of them have political realisations.
Philosophy was born out of an unlikely convergence of political systems.
This is spot on, let’s get to it.
Prehistoric politics
We start by discussing prehistoric politics. The main organising unit for much of human history is the tribe. The tribe is very limiting politically:
It is bounded by size: Some people use Dunbar’s number.
It is bounded organisationally: Because of limited size, some political systems can’t be imposed.
It is bounded by resources: Because a small group of people is limited both in the ability to discover technology and the ability to apply technology.
Therefore, it should come as no surprise that centuries of philosophical debate have concluded the following: the only political system applicable in the tribe is totalitarian democracy.
Totalitarian means all-encompassing, i.e., the political system regulates all aspects of life. Democracy means everyone has a say. Taken together, it is a system that regulates and directs people’s lives through input from everyone. It is intrusive (in the modern sense), but only in terms that the consensus allows it.
Simply put, the tribe needs everyone, so everyone has to have an incentive to cooperate. Everyone has a saying, but everyone also has to surrender to the tribe. The innate constant status competition of humans essentially guarantees that the system will end up regulating all aspects regarding resources and breeding rights, hence becoming totalitarian. However, people cannot reject it because isolation equaled death in the Savannah.
The leader (or Alpha), especially, is no more than a slave to the whole. Any unacceptable behaviour can leave him stranded with the rest of the tribe wandering off. Leadership is conditional and fragile.
Since leadership is fragile, it begs the question: how can a political system maintain itself? It does so in only one way, and it is the same way used by all modern hunter-gatherers and primitives we have ever encountered and documented. It is held together by a system of unwritten laws, a code of ethics, if you will.
This code of ethics is the ruling instrument of the system, we will call it ancient nomos∗ , borrowing Alamariu’s terminology. Nomos stands for “law” in Greek. Think of the whole concept as the law system or social contract for primitives. Let us explain the concept further.
Ancient nomos
This law system operates under the conventions of the tribe over generations. Stories of ancestors pass into legend and get codified. Anecdotes of old and dispute resolutions become immortalized. The tribe as a unit learns from its experiences over time and passes them into virtue.
In particular, because the system is totalitarian, the unwritten law system is also total. It regulates relationships in every setting and stage. It regulates how infants are meant to grow up and be educated, it regulates initiation rites for men, it regulates marriage and sexual copulation.
Individuals get trapped in this system. Because the system is an ethics code, it is therefore moralised. To enforce itself, everything outside of it is deemed heresy, magic, or evil. Questioning the tribe becomes equivalent to siding with evil spirits or opposing tribes.
This idea is supported historically. We have observed that much of the early human culture was created through the phenomenon of schismogenesis: To differentiate themselves, tribes/nations did the diametrically opposite of each other. Think Athens and Sparta in classical Greece, for example. By extension, an individual rejecting the tribe’s belief would automatically put him into the belief system of the neighbouring tribe, hence an enemy.
Therefore, people are raised entirely inside this total system, and they cannot escape it. Its assumptions become the structure of cognition itself, and myth becomes perception.
This is the process in which Blue Pill (Social Programming) was born in the early Matriarchy. Ancient nomos is the Blue Pill itself. It locks the individual into the constructed myth of the tribe.
Here it is fully spelled out. Tribes’ experiences and anecdotes get codified and moralised into a code of ethics. This code of ethics is imposed via shared understanding (for example, shaming) or via religious outlets (for example, transgressions). Because of fragile leadership and innate status competition, this moral code regulates all aspects of life. The trap is now complete, the individual is born into a worldview, a matrix if you will, that cannot escape.
Importantly, ancient nomos is the default system of the human mind. If the tribe is the natural political unit of humans and the tribe operates under totalitarian democracy, then Blue Pill is the natural framework that the mind operates under. The ancient Matriarchy is the default; the Blue pill is the default. The mechanism is laid bare. Square and simple.
Aristocracy – an important political system
We have now arrived at the same question we had in the previous chapter. Such an all-encompassing system, how can it break? How can the road to Philosophy be paved? What mentality shifts need to be present for this to happen?
Aristocracy is the key piece in understanding philosophy. Aristocracy was developed by pastoral people; it is the rule of the best. This observation comes from animal breeding. Breeding the best animals is the way of the pastoralist, so a political system that the best get to rule (and by extension breed, by assigning power to them) is the natural conclusion. Pastoralists turned the way they feed themselves into a political system.
Aristocracy has a consistent pattern in the way it gets established. Nomadic pastoralists conquer settled agriculturalists and impose a two-class system. A ruling class and a slave class. This is the aristocracy being applied: “best animals” get to rule, and worse ones live in want. Of course, the pastoralists are the ruling class and the agriculturalists the slaves.
However, aristocracies have a deterministic lifecycle. Eventually, the Aristocratic elite grows soft and decadent from the abuse of power. This makes society prone to conquering (or collapsing). The society then gets reconquered by new pastoralists, and the cycle repeats.
This observation of the aristocratic cycle originates from the incredible insights of Ibn Khaldun, all the way back in the 14th century.
The mechanism of Aristocracy
Aristocracy is unique because it manifests a reason for differentiating between the two classes. The differentiation between the elite and the slaves is by artificial meritocracy. This is an interesting deviation from other slave-based political systems, but it is consistent with the origins of the political system. Remember, under pastoral rule, only the “best animals” deserve breeding rights, so we need to define what “best” is.
We are interested in the Greek aristocracy, as this one produced philosophy later on. Aristoi (“the best” in Greek) are the ones with Andreia – prowess in battle – and Phronesis – statesmanship. In short, the values of a ruler. A ruler needs to be strong and provide good guidance. Therefore, the Aristocracy self-proclaims legitimacy by being good at ruling.
Proto-Nature
For the purposes of our analysis, we are not interested in how the Aristocracy excuses its merit. We are not interested in whether the Khaldun cycle is fair or if artificial merit is legitimate or not. We are interested, however, in how it views merit.
Merit for Aristocracy is universal. It is not about social convention; merit is results-based, i.e., being a good ruler. It exists beyond society. If someone is a good ruler in a different city, he has equal merit everywhere. The concept transcends the tribe.
Aristoi, the ones with merit, are distinguished in competition (Olympics) and battle. Ancient Greek sources are clear about this. Read poems and heroic stories that they left behind. It is clear in Homer, it is clear in historians, and it is clear from the sculptures and art that they left behind.
This is the first glimpse of what can be called a universal truth. Anyone can theoretically win the Olympics, and anyone can theoretically excel in battle. In particular, the tribe cannot decide who wins competitions and who does well in battle. The individual excels because his nature dictates it.
In fact, let’s go one step further. The concepts of Andreia and Phronesis are about learnable skills. They can be objectively measured and acquired. Any system that ranks men by objective performance necessarily rewards excellence, i.e., the expense of resources to acquire skills. This is what we defined as Beauty in the earlier chapter. Aristocracy, by chasing merit, even if artificial, chases Beauty. That is its universal truth.
Universal truth is not compatible with the Female ideology; it cannot be tied into myth. It is only compatible with the Male ideology; it can only be tied into logic. That is why the concept was so unique and groundbreaking for the Ancient Greeks.
Alamariu very correctly called this objective and measurable property Nature. Indeed, transitioning from a collective and subjective reality to an objective and measurable one is akin to discovering Nature itself.
As we will show, this concept of (still artificial) Nature is the stepping stone to Philosophy.
The roadmap to Proto-Nature
The Dorians from the last chapter imposed the first large-scale Aristocracies. They did it in Greece, they did it in India with the caste system.
But how did they do it? How could they see this “rule of best” over ancient nomos? The answer is through the wolfpack, the band of male aggressive youth. The male-only space.
This is the basis of what made the Dorian society patriarchal. Through the invention of the chariot and horseback fighting, young males got disproportionate power. Young males use this power to reassert themselves into the clan to claim breeding rights (or raid other clans for the same purpose).
This is the mechanism. Through aggression and force, they can resist and fight back against the limiting structure of the tribe and impose their understanding.
Note: the youth’s worldview and understanding are not necessarily better. It’s just their version, but they can impose it.
The birth of philosophy
The birth of Philosophy in Ancient Greece sits at the end of a Khaldun cycle, which was artfully observed by Alamariu.
Nomadic Dorians arrived in Greece around 1800-1600BC. This is our pastoralist group. They made a base in northern Greece and proceeded to conquer the settled Minoans.
The Dorians imposed an Aristocracy, with its proto-nature concepts of merit. Here are some examples of how this merit or “proto-nature” was observed in culture. In Homer, Achilles (best by nature) disputes with Agamemnon, the Mycenaean king (ruler by convention – the ancient nomos). Hercules (best by nature) takes on Eurystheus, the king of Tiryns (ruler by convention). Perseus (Male spirit) ventures into the Aegean to slay the Medusa (Female spirit).
The whole framework we explained in the previous chapter applies exactly here. The patriarchal Dorians, by the concept of proto-Nature, were battling the settled Minons operating under the old Matriarchy. The Nature vs Nomos that we observe is exactly the Male and the Female spirits scrapping it out.
When the cycle reached its conclusion, i.e., when Aristocracy became decadent and collapsed into Oligarchies, Democracies, and Tyrannies, philosophers took this merit-based Nature and extended it to discover the true Nature of the world. The objective and immutable truth.
That is the Birth of Philosophy. Artistocracy introduced the concept of Nature, and philosophers mapped it into the actual world. This is how Male logic came to be applied in explaining the world, in explaining Nature.
But let us put the implications of this into perspective. This immutable truth preys on ancient nomos. Nature is the enemy of ancient nomos. Because if reality is to exist objectively, then it overrides the artificial conventions of the tribe. Philosophy is the natural enemy of the Blue Pill. The Blue Pill dissolves under empirical truth.
This is exactly what the modern Red Pill did for gender dynamics. This is the mechanism we used to dissolve dating delusions: empirical and objective truths.
A story retold
What are the outcomes of this 4-chapter series? Let’s, dear reader, repeat what we have just discussed.
In the beginning, humans were living in a state of nature.
The natural inclination is Matriarchy.
Life ruled over ancient nomos, the all-encompassing Blue Pill.
This is the default of human nature. This is society when left to its devices. The improbable way of escaping this condition:
The only force able to break ancient nomos is the male band – the Wolfpack.
The only way to break ancient nomos is through the discovery of nature, Philosophy, and Science.
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
In this essay, we aim to show that Blue Pill is the base state of the human mind. We will do so by exploring the cultural output of prehistory. Prehistory was the era less tempered by man-made technology; it is a pure source of human nature. Modern sociologists do the same by studying hunter-gatherer societies; we can one-up this and study the source itself.
For a proper analysis, we need to be careful. Cultural output is highly contextual to the worldview of the people who produced it. It is not enough to repeat stories of old; we need to see the world as they saw it. Their assumptions, biases, and ambitions. In a sense, we need to break into their mode of thinking. It is Empathy in action.
When we analyze culture and myth like this, a picture becomes very clear. Society transitioned from a mythopoetical worldview in pre-history to the structured logical worldview of Ancient Greek Philosophy. This is no joke; society cannot just randomly move between the two. Entrenched interests and cultural lag fundamentally resist change. This was even more true in societies of old, where vengeful Gods and Spirits punished trespassers and deniers.
Reframing the concept, the society transitioned from artificial worldviews designed by the tribe for the tribe to a society that was able to understand and interact with the objective world. Society transitioned from one that was ruled by Social Programming (Blue Pill) through religion and convention, to one that was able to see the real picture.
This process was finalized with the establishment of Greek Philosophy. The first truly Male worldview. It was a psychological battle as much as a practical one. More importantly, it generalizes quite cleanly. The same mental models that dominated pre-history are predictable and present in any social programming setting.
The Setting
We will follow Amaury de Riencourt [Women and Power in History] and his groundbreaking historical analysis based on Masculine and Feminine ideology. Riencourt made fundamental progress when he realized systemic gender differences exist not only on practical terms, but also become internalized into the psyche of each sex.
A disclaimer: Amaury was greatly inspired by Carl Jung, who theorized that both men and women have a male and female part in their soul (anima and animus). This is not men vs women, it is a Masculine and Feminine worldview.
Each gender has biological differences. These are subtle attitude adjustments. For example, males lean towards logic, while females lean towards relationships. Females are naturally focused on nurturing and raising children; men are naturally focused on facing the world (metaphorically: hunting for the tribe). Later in life, these attitude adjustments are further compounded by actual events. Women get period and childbirth cycles. Men get into initiation rituals.
In short, each gender has fundamentally different brain chemistry and a different societal reception. The schism is deep enough to define completely different challenges and objectives for each gender. Collectively, these create the different outlooks and, at a macro level, define the Male and Female psychology. This was Riencourt’s groundbreaking innovation. Grasping and explaining this psychology.
Things get horrifying when this psychology turns into a worldview. Let us think about this, people explain life based on their feelings. For example, “a big bad bear” is scary because it threatens survival, a cat is “cute” because it is non-threatening. Emotions are an active part of the human experience, and they cannot be separated from perception (remember Frame ?).
And that is the key: psychology and human experience are interlinked. Therefore, myth, which is the poetic expression of perception, explains life outlook! If this life outlook is similar among many people, it becomes culture. It is a connected chain from biology → mythical expression → culture.
Because the Male and Female archetypes are deeply antithetical, the viewpoints they imply cannot co-exist. Society is stratified in eras when one or the other prevails. When the Male or the Female spirit prevails, it imposes its psychosynthesis into the society’s software. The archetypes themselves become the psychological archetypes of the society.
More importantly, because these changes originate biologically and structurally, they are constantly present. The same spiritual battle that played out in prehistory is present in today’s gender wars. It has even played out multiple times since the dawn of civilization. The modes of expression might differ from era to era, but the tactics and the goals are constantly the same.
And here is the hack: because the need arises from the soul, once we analyze the first battle of pre-history, our model is accurate enough to explain all later variations as well. Once we identify the mental models of the original Social Programming, we have the blueprint for all.
Let us now analyze these psychologies.
Feminine spirit
There are 4 keywords that define the Female psychology. Cyclicality, Pivotal events, Purpose, and connection to Mysticism:
Women get purpose from their mothers: They have someone to look up to. Someone to model and copy.
Cyclicality: Comes from the period, repeated pregnancy, and the life and death cycle in human settlements. Life works in eternal repeated patterns.
Pivotal events are given by nature: Women enter a new stage in life from different events: first period, loss of virginity, childbirth, and menopause. All these are given by nature and need not be worked towards.
Mysticism: I.e., a connection with the world that requires no concrete logic.
All in all, the Female spirit places an emphasis on being, not doing. An emphasis on the here and now. Females perceive time as eternally repeated cycles.
Masculine spirit
The male keywords are Purpose and Logic:
Males cannot look up to their mother: The mother is not a role model.
There are no pivotal events in a male’s life. Male needs to create them.
The need for understanding and reason.
All in all, the male spirit puts an emphasis on doing, not being. Males view time as a metaphorical arrow pointing linearly through time.
The grand scale
We have a model of two conflicting psychologies. Let us take a look at the zoomed-out picture before jumping into the details.
The default of mankind was the Matriarchy. Prehistory was dominated by Female psychology, which provided all of life’s explanations. This was not a fluke; our core thesis is that Female psychology is the default human psychology.
During the early Neolithic, a revolution was slowly brewing, which culminated with the establishment of the Male spirit into the world. After that, history can be analysed into periods where the Male spirit has an edge and where the Female spirit has an edge.
We will focus on the conditions that freed humankind from this first Great Matriarchy. That first step from Female to Male psychology is indeed the most significant because it broke the eternal Matriarchy’s grasp (of at least 100,000 years) and established the oscillating cycle. There was a very improbable sequence of events that led to this, and it is highly documented in art and myth.
As we will see, Feminine worldviews lead to a life akin to “Garden of Eden” that Rousseau hinted at. Carefree and relaxed existence… but deprived of meaning, adventure, and progression. This is a feature and will be explained later. Masculine worldviews, when they edge out, lead to innovation and, advancement of science. These societies are also hyper-competitive and hierarchical.
Both worldviews can have their advantages and disadvantages, but Beauty, as defined in the previous chapter, can’t exist under a Feminine worldview. Because archetypically, the Female worldview aims at just being, the Male worldview is the one aimed at becoming.
This ancient Matriarchy was the first Blue Pill of the world. It had trapped mankind into its “Garden of Eden” style of life. The aimless existence of living just to survive. The life of just being and propagating.
Female domination to Patriarchy
We will now provide the macro-level roadmap of our historical period of interest. As we already said, the Female worldview dominated until the Neolithic and the agricultural revolution 10,000 years ago. After that, the pendulum starts to shift towards the Male worldview, which culminates with the birth of Philosophy around 500BC.
Modern humans have a history of at least 100,000 years as homo sapiens, and our way of life was stratified by the presence of the Ice Age. This is the dividing line in our history: the shift from the Glacial to Interglacial period. Let us take a look.
Glacial Period
We begin with the Glacial period. We currently live in the fourth Ice Age. These are periods where Earth is unusually cold, glaciers expand, water freezes, etc. Our current Ice Age is special because it works in phases. It breaks down into glacial periods, spanning 100,000-150,000 years, and interglacial periods (current), that span 10,000-15,000 years. The former is when glaciers advance, and everything freezes; the latter is when the climate resembles today’s levels.
This has been going on for quite a few cycles, and Homo sapiens certainly was alive during the last glacial period. All the evidence suggests that humans were mammoth hunters during this period. They lived semi-nomadically, i.e., they had a permanent home base and hunted on trips nearby.
In terms of religion, we can infer widespread belief in mysticism (magic). Such evidence comes from modern hunter-gatherers. Magic is used to explain hunting variance; this is widespread and systematic. This is further supported by the artifacts we have found, the so-called “Venus figures”. These are female religious dolls found from Spain all the way to Vladivostok (surprisingly, supporting a global mono-culture).
In terms of lifestyle, we can infer clan dominance. Extended family networks that work like tribes. Women are mobile and move between tribes; men stay on their home soil. This environment suggests female dominance, as females always do well in standing social environments. A modern example is the East Asian extended family, where the true power always sits with the mother-in-law.
Now take one and two together, and we have the first evidence of the ancient Matriarchy. A mysticism-based religion with only female figures and a social environment that promotes female dominance through relationship control.
Adding salt to the wound, it is also plausible that humans hadn’t realized the role of the father in mating. Simply, people thought males had no role in procreation. The pregnancy cycles are too long to establish the causality between sex and childbirth, leading directly to a divine elevation of women.
From their society’s viewpoint, women had a biological purpose: childbirth. This was the miracle of nature and should be worshiped. On the other hand, males didn’t have a biological purpose. Their purpose was only social, i.e., hunting and protecting the tribe. This was a big meta-mismatch of power in the roles of each gender. Males were totally lost in terms of purpose.
Therefore, it is no wonder that the Male worldview was suppressed in art and myth. This makes the changes we outline below truly baffling.
Neolithic Epoch
There is a psychological revolution brewing from the start of the Interglacial era. The retreat of the glaciers started to allow new ways of living, for example, nomadic hunting, farming, and gardening settlements, etc.
The psychological reversal finalized during the Neolithic era. The Male role is elevated disproportionally through tool discovery and innovation. By inventing male-only devices, famously the plow, but also animal domestication, sailing, the wheel, and metal crafting.
The role of the Male rises first socially, then spiritually, and the cycle finally completes with its worldview established in thought. This was the discovery of Philosophy. The monumental achievement that broke the first Blue Pill of the world.
This process was slow to happen, taking at least 8000 years from the establishment of the first agricultural settlements to the conception of Philosophy. It is also the era we have the most archeological evidence, and if analyzed correctly, it shows the true psychological battle behind the scenes.
Myth and culture under Matriarchy
In our historical rundown, we had made some sweeping claims. It is now time to provide evidence to support our observations.
The aim is to establish the mental models under the Female worldview. We will do so by analyzing myth and cultural output. This is twofold. First, because these are the strongest avenues through which ideology is expressed. Second, because we are lacking any other forms of archaeological evidence. Simply put, archeologically, pre-history is a dark space.
This is a so-called mythopoetic analysis. The art of inference of mental models based on their artistic output. It works surprisingly well in social sciences because outcomes do depend on psychology. To paraphrase Carroll Quigley: “If the apple wants to fly, this won’t make gravity disappear. If society wants war, however, this makes war all the more likely to happen”.
In early history, females clearly dominated myth. All the archeological evidence shows female Goddesses and a total absence of anything male. Whether figures, male organs – phallus objects – or anything remotely devoted to men is completely absent. Everything we have found is female or female-related. Here is some archeological evidence:
In catalhuyuk, the oldest city we uncovered
Knossos – Minoans
Twin godesess – Malta
Demeter (used to represent Gaia) – Greece
Finally: The Mother Earth recurring legend. Repeating in every geographical longitude and latitude.
The last one, the Mother Earth myth, is particularly interesting. This is the Goddess who gives birth by herself, no males needed. It is only unique to prehistory. In contrast, later religions made it pretty clear to include male figures in the Pantheon. This was not done covertly; deliberate acts of insemination were often included. But for pre-history, there is a total absence:
The Greek Gaia, who created the world
The babylonian Tiamat that the world is created from her body
The minoan Diktyna, the lady with the snakes
The Sumer Ninsurhag
The Egyptian Hathor
Greek Hera gives birth to Hephaestus by herself without Zeus.
All variations of the same myth. A supreme Goddess without a husband. It has even survived into Christianity through the Virgin Mary.
This is the evidence that strongly supports the idea that we hadn’t discovered the role of the father. Simply put, we didn’t know we needed men to produce life. This is also the unifying piece of this section. This worldview naturally elevates the woman to mythical status. The mythical expression we described makes absolute sense under those lenses.
What is a father?
Let’s put this under the microscope. It is a key concept to understand. What evidence do we have of the absence of knowledge of the father?
Evidence from Culture
Modern Polynesian: the word for father doesn’t exist.
Modern Pygmies: “Sperm is food for the babies”.
Modern Maori: “The moon is the real husband of all wives.”
Ancient Chinese: “Babies come from dragon tears”.
Ancient Greeks: “Before Cecrops, Athenians didn’t know their father”.
What does it say for their worldview if the word “father” doesn’t exist or is downplayed?
Evidence from Mythology
As we discussed earlier, total absence of male Gods, statues, and sacred objects. What does it say for a society if the supreme Goddess is always female and many times gives birth totally unassisted?
Evidence from Social Life
For many, even modern, hunter-gatherers, the father is only a convention. The entire village raises the baby.
Fathers, in particular, are chosen arbitrarily by wives and can also change.
Life is usually expressed as originating from the forest, caves, rivers, the sea, or the sky and the spirits that live there. It is channelled to the woman from there.
The recurring belief that life originates from Earth and ends on Earth. The myth of reincarnation fits here.
Aside 1: Examples for the third bullet point are clearly expressed in Greek mythology. Zeus would often transform in rain, a bull, or even air to inseminate women.
Aside 2: The last bullet point is a clear manifestation of Female cyclicality. Burial is Female cyclicality. The cycle of life begins and ends with Mother Earth.
Now, take a moment and consider this groundbreaking evidence from our modern Red Pill lens. All male-female interactions are meant to work in the absence of (conscious) knowledge of childbirth. Men and women (consciously) really care just about sex. This is the extent that motivates both sexes into interacting with each other.
Childbirth itself might as well be spirits putting babies in women’s bellies. This is what your mind understands on a practical level. This is the basis of modern hunter-gatherers that seem to practice “free sex” instead of marriage and the transactional model of male provision of the West.
The transactional model of courtship is fiction. There is no stress for offspring survival under our natural social system, the tribe. Evolutionary psychology has missed the mark here. How else could it even be? The “provision” model can only exist for the last 10,000 years with the dawn of agriculture. For hunter-gatherers, the tribe shares everything; there is no worry for resources that are not collective. The whole village raises the baby.
The modern “provider” is not hardwired into human females; there haven’t been enough generations for it. In reality, Wealth is just a symbol of status (the dominant one), and women care for status. The economic “value” of wealth is just a side effect and non-existent in women’s minds. The gold-digger exists because men want it, not women. They want a reward for doing well in the “Western” society – getting rich – while ignoring all other sources of value.
The early human mentality
All this creates a paradox for the modern mind. What is the thinking of such a culture? How did these people view the world? What implications do their myths and stories have?
So far, we have made a model of the collective psychology, the Female worldview, and verified its expression on myth and history. Let us now combine it with a model of the mind itself.
For the following, we also have empirical backing. When Europeans met modern age primitives and hunter-gatherers, they left a significant body of work describing their thinking.
No Cause and Effect relations
Instead, we have Symbol and Phenomenon. The mind connects images and events without connecting logic. For example, a dark crow flies in the sky → we will lose the battle if we attack today. This situation played out at the Battle of Plataea. Read the history; it is hilarious.
Essentially, this is correlation without causation. For those who know neuroscience, remember the old adage “what fires together, wires together” – this is correlation. This is the natural state of the mind.
No temporal relations
This is Female cyclicality. We have myths eternally repeated. The rotation of the seasons, the cycle of the moon, the cycle of the day. Life followed natural rhythms.
No congruence in thought
Congruence in thought means we have a unified brain. It can recognise itself, and it is stable through time. You means you. You are always you.
Humorous as it may sound, this wasn’t the case. People of old were constantly describing situations in which spirits possessed them. They would sweep their emotions and control them entirely.
This is how Hercules gets possessed by Hera and kills his wife and children. This is how Achilles’ rage is described in the Iliad. There are even claims that people would translate inner monologue as the voice of God, for example, as described in the scripture.
There are many more examples scattered in myths. When people became possessed, they literally became different individuals. This is mind not unified in a single entity.
Personal, not impersonal thinking
This has been described as I-Thou vs I-It thinking. The former stands for personal connection, while the latter stands for abstract utilitarian connection. The second is a modern phenomenon. Earlier peoples were assigning emotional states to everything via spirits and petty Gods.
This makes a big difference based on Neuroscience. I-Thou is thinking that involves people; it combines logic with emotions. I-It is totally impersonal. In the brain, each type of thinking is processed in completely different regions with completely different mechanisms.
There is no status competition with impersonal objects, for example. Also, people solve the trolley problem using different logic depending on their perceived distance from the experiment participants.
Blue Pill mythical thinking
If you didn’t read this section on “Thinking” carefully enough, go do it again. This is Blue Pill, this is Social Programming. This is the mental framework that enables both. These are the mechanisms that the myth is built on:
Personal connections or personification of objects and ideas.
Repeated eternal cycles.
Lack of causality, only correlation.
Forces that take over the mind and make people act like possessed.
Whether you want to call it Disney, ancient Matriarchy, or Communism, you will find the same pattern of thought. Maybe it is not Hercules that Hera possesses his mind and causes him to kill his wife and children. Maybe it’s just a Disney prince who is being possessed by love and goes crazy adventuring to save the princess.
The core is the same. The mechanisms are the same. This is how the mind understands social programming. Incoherent thought patterns, eternally repeated. The “love that lasts forever”, the “myth of romanticism” that repeats for every couple and every relationship, etc.
This is no joke; this is the core argument of this chapter. I challenge the reader to take these four principles and see how much they explain pop social programming narratives. Take any:
Consumerism
Religions
Democracy as religion
Modern economics
Blank slate
That is why Philosophy was such a monumental achievement. For the first time, it lifted humankind from this condition and presented a world model based on logic and causality. A model based on an objective “nature”, a testable, immutable truth of the world.
Red Pill does exactly this for the gender dynamics. Only after taking the Red Pill can you see the Blue Pill delusions for what they are. A myth and a fiction.
The road out of the Matriarchy
What happened to get us out of Matriarchy and into Patriarchy? As we said before, the change was slow. It started socially, evolved spiritually, and finalized with Philosophy. Philosophy is the ultimate expression of the Male spirit. It is a structured, logical system to explain the world. It contrasts highly with the mythical Female mode of expression.
Let us now showcase the historical and technological forces that enable this.
The Dorian invasions and the Axial Age
Dorians were steppe tribes that invented the chariot. This allowed them to invade the entire world, from Europe all the way to India. Their influence is clear to this modern day, and it is studied via the common linguistic roots.
We have clear historical evidence that all major civilizations were conquered and their entire social structure was re-established in the second millennium BC. Think of the fall of Babylon, the fall of Knossos, the Indo-Aryan invasion of India. These were the Dorians.
This terrifying invention of the chariot has been burned into the annals of history via the Greek myth of the centaur. The half-horse, half-human being, or better put: the view of the chariot from afar.
The chariot requires a rider and an archer, and the charioteers themselves had to spend years in training, eventually establishing a deep bond between them. This is the mythical unbreakable bond between male friends. This friendship has passed into the repeating myth of the horse twin gods. This myth repeats in the Greek Dioscuri (Castor and Pollux), the Sicilian Palici, the Hindu Ashvins (Nasatya and Darsa), the Germanic Alcis, and the Anglo-Saxon Hengist and Horsa. The Romulus and Remus myth (the twin founders of Rome) is a spin-off of this myth.
Dorians were as patriarchal as it gets. The chariot was the basis of their society, and naturally elevated the Male position disproportionately. As they conquered other peoples, they were sowing the seeds that later established the Male spirit into the world. What is particularly impressive is that not only did they promote the Male, but deeply hated the Female. We see the foundation of entire mythologies being rewritten, coinciding with their invasions. For example:
Ancient Greeks: the new Gods with Zeus (male) as a leader wage war over the Titans, the children of Gaia.
Egypt: Horus, the male God, inseminates Hathor (the prior Earth Goddess) to give birth to the Sun every day.
In Mesopotamia, Marduk kills Tiamat.
Psychologically, this implies a trauma at the very core of society. The Dorians didn’t just enforce a new worldview; they entirely crushed the old system and established a diametrically opposite one. This interaction, this trauma, this was the miracle that let the Male spirit free and brought it into the world.
The psychological war of this age can be summarised in the Greek myth of Perseus. Historically, he was a Mycenaean king. In myth, he ventures into the islands to kill Medusa. Well… who was Medusa? The lady with snakes in her head. That is the Minoan Goddess, the Minoan sacred Earth Goddess!
In short, Perseus is the metaphorical spirit of the Dorians. He ventures into Minoan territory to slay the old worldview. Just imagine the mentality that led to such a mythical expression.
Post-invasion world
Therefore, the old worldview is crushed by the Dorians. And it is not only crushed in a geographical pocket, but it is crushed systematically in the entire known world. So… what comes next?
What follows the period of Dorian invasions is what has been named the Axial Age∗. A 500-year window, between 800-300BC, during which all pivotal events that started modern history happened:
Greek philosophy
Greek History: Thucydides
Zoroastrianism (the first Male religion) – Persia
Confucius and Lao Tse – China
Buddha and Upanishads – India
This was the Male spirit establishing itself in the world. Let us now trace the spiritual change via Zoroastrianism and the mental change through Philosophy.
The Freedom of the Male Spirit
Before the full emergence of the Male worldview in Greece, the first rupture in the ancient Matriarchy happened in Persia. Zoroastrianism is the earliest known system that replaces the Feminine, cyclical worldview with a linear and moral one. The religion is summarized below:
Ahura Mazda (God) and Ahriman (Satan) are locked in a cosmic struggle across a fixed timeline of history. This battle lasts 9,000 years.
To eliminate Ahriman, God created men to physically entrap evil into human actions. Men can assist Ahura Mazda in this battle through moral choice. By behaving virtuously, they eliminate a little bit of evil.
God’s victory is inevitable at the end of history. Hence, God is infinite in time; evil is bounded.
Notice all the unique traits this religion has over prior Female ones:
Time becomes linear, not cyclical: History has a beginning and an end.
Ethics becomes universal: Morality is grounded in reason, not a mythic taboo.
Myth becomes parable: Symbolic, not literal. Its true purpose is the moral code itself.
Agency becomes central: Men choose between good and evil. Men realize themselves by behaving virtuously.
Zoroastrianism, for the first time, established Male spirituality into the world. The Male spirit had a clear instrument of expression. This revolution laid the groundwork for the mind to follow via Philosophy.
Greek Philosophy
The importance of Greek philosophy cannot be understated; it will actually be the focus of the next chapter. We will give a detailed description of the forces that brought it into the world. For now, we want to explain the Male mental model. Here are the outcomes of Philosophy, i.e., the Male mode of thinking:
The freedom of mankind from the eternal myth
By structuring thought. Things need a reason to exist and should follow a logical inference through the dimension of time. Think of it like continuity in thought.
The old cyclical and mythical interpretation won’t cut it anymore. Myth itself was viewed as parables and allegories∗.
Consciousness is combined into a single person.
No more spirits taking control over people or gods talking into people’s heads. This, in a sense, introduces accountability and purpose.
If man’s life is not determined by the whims of the Gods, then he is accountable for his life (locus of control).
Abstract thought begins.
Things can be isolated and analyzed independently. This was the gift of analysis and has carried over in the Western world ever since.
There is a psychological test for this. The rod and frame test. Subjects need to isolate a frame from its background and balance a rod perpendicular to the frame (but not to the background).
Populations with analytical thought can do this, but as we diverge into primitives with a more holistic style of thought, this task becomes harder. This is Male/Female duality in action.
Cause and effect relationships.
No more correlation, instead causation. This was the beginning of science. In scientific terms, correlation is the observation. This and this happen together. Causation is the explanation, this and this happen together because there is a logical progression from one end to the other.
Causation is an expression of Male linearity, a sequencing of shorts. I repeat, to showcase the contrast and to showcase how unatural this is: the base state of the mind is correlation. From Neuroscience: “what fires together, wires together”.
With this, we have finally squared the circle. This type of thinking, the Philosophical thinking, is the diametrically opposite of the Social Programming thinking we verbalized earlier.
It is not a coincidence; it is because both come from antithetical worldviews. One is Female, one is Male. Each type of thinking expresses the psychological needs of each gender. Crucially, this Philosophical thinking is the only force that can break Social Programming, because it is compatible with Beauty.
Beauty and Male spirit
Remind yourself of the outcomes of a Female worldview: a relaxed, peaceful, but static society and existence. In contrast, the Male society is hierarchical and competitive. Moralizing this is pointless, but we will establish a deep truth.
The Male worldview is the definition of beauty from Part One. The Male spirit is driven by Beauty. The use of resources to achieve something new, perfect its skills, and innovate. Beauty arises from the male need to become and realize himself. By definition, this signifies the expense of resources for skill acquisition and excellence. That is what “to become” means: to differentiate, to excel.
The true Male hierarchies are based on skill, they are based on Beauty. Hierarchy as oppression is a perversion of Modernity. This is what the Modern world truly robbed us of. This is what Social Programming robs the world of. Oppression is an outcome of being; it maintains the status quo, the inhibition of action.
The Axial Age wasn’t a fluke of genius that sprang from nowhere. It was the first systematic search of Beauty. That is why it seems like a golden era to us; it was a unique worldview being established for the first time.
Philosophy was the result of a search for Beauty. Red Pill is a result of a search for Beauty. The quest for Beauty is incompatible with any form of Social Programming. The quest for Beauty is the natural antidote to Social Programming. Ain’t this impressive?
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
The first puzzle piece we need to dispel the prominence of Social Programming is exactly this: proving that life is not a social convention. We will do so by the concept of Beauty. An objective measure of beauty that arises biologically. It transcends culture and conventions. A concept of beauty related to how organisms use their resources.
Against Darwin
We will use a daring argument. Especially, a daring argument for the Red Pill circles. Evolution is the concept of Heredity with Survival and Replication as the drivers. However, Heredity itself was an old idea, even for Darwin. It was known since the very beginning of animal domestication and breeding. By the time of Darwin, humans had shaped the fate of plants (eg, wheat, apples) and animals alike (eg, dogs, horses). This was Darwin’s innovation: figuring out the hidden drivers of nature in selecting who is worthy to pass on their genes. He transitioned from Heredity to Evolution by assigning a driver: Survival and Replication. We will challenge this step; we will argue against Survival and Replication.
Disclaimer: This is the philosophical version: Does Nature impose the S&R firmware, or is it a total accident? Should S&R dictate life, or is it just a byproduct of life? If all chickens refuse to breed from now on, then of course, chickens will go extinct as a species. Evolution works. But the fact that chickens would go extinct as a species doesn’t mandate that they shouldn’t stop breeding.
Evolution’s Blind Spots
To start off, we address the main pitfall of evolutionary psychology. That is, behaviour by its nature is teleological – from Greek “Telos”, end. Meaning it cannot be analysed by itself, without its purpose. For example, “he fetched the milk” makes no sense by itself; you need “…because he was thirsty” or “… to the customer” to give meaning to the action. In its broadest sense, this proves that there can never be social sciences without philosophy.
Why would this cause an issue for EvoPsych? The reason is that trying to assign a purpose to Evolution only leads to wrong conclusions. This was known even in Darwin’s age. It first appeared in his writings that evolution is blind and has no purpose. However, EvoPsych does exactly this; it claims behavior is there to aid S&R. This is a fundamental blind spot at the very center of EvoPsych’s foundations. We will prove this by showing the sketchiness of the concept of survival of the fittest in humans. The concept doesn’t apply as universally and as accurately as it does on other animals.
Survival and Replication on the Microscope
Let’s re-examine the survival of the fittest concept, then. Fittest individuals have a higher chance to pass on their genes, ill-fitted ones have a lower chance to pass them on. On a long time scale, this would lead to ill-fitted traits to disappear, go extinct. Does this concept stand to scrutiny?
The first part (good genes) is a tautology; we claim that the best genes are the ones that spread quickly, so nothing to do here. The second part, we need to ask ourselves whether the world is naturally scarce to support this argument. Is it really scarce enough to weed out genes that fast to eliminate them from the gene pool? Especially, is it scarce for higher animals, and even more is it scarce for humans?
My personal answer is no. Of course, there is no way of fully proving it, but there is some limited evidence that we have. Homo Ergaster (our ancestor) was already considered an apex predator since 1.6million years ago, and so all human species thereafter. Additionally, contrary to the popular argument, there were many human populations that rejected agriculture altogether at the beginning of history. This was despite knowledge of it [Dawn of Everything – David Graeber]. People decided that staying as foragers and hunter-gatherers was a better life than settling down as farmers. Isn’t that a major contradiction?
Especially, the start of agriculture followed a period with so much wheat and cereal abundance (in nature) that humans would never need to work to get by [Work – James Suzman]. Actually, this by itself is evidence against Evolutionary Bottlenecks. In short, remove the hard limiting factors that weed out genes, and then the generations needed to eliminate them from the pool grow exponentially.
Darwin and Malthus
Remember, Darwin doesn’t work without Malthus. These philosophies work hand in hand. In a sense, we are arguing against Malthus and his idea that organisms will expand to the ecosystem’s carrying capacity.
Malthus’ original assumption was that the population doubles every 25 years based on studies on British Colonial subjects. This was a very smart form of measurement, but affected by advanced agricultural techniques introduced by Britain. This led to his assumption that populations grow exponentially and agriculture grows linearly by extending the cultivatable land. For example, doubling the arable land can at most double production of the best farms (depending on the soil quality). Eventually, this leads to famine and collapse as there is not enough food to go around.
In contrast, modern estimates indicate a population doubling of every 250,000 in our evolutionary past. A fair shot, but way off from Malthus’ calculation. His theory can therefore not be universally applicable. This population doubling was not even limited by environmental resources; it is not indicative of a hard life for the ancient humans. Infant mortality was indeed high until the revolution in medicine and sanitation (pioneered in the West), but discounting infants, life wasn’t that hard for primitives.
Estimates indicate that after a child reaches 15 years of age, then its life expectancy is above 60 in any human society, primitive or not. Historical figures in Greece (start of written history) are known to have lived over 80 years at their death. A number that matches modern levels. Hell, removing agriculture, things only improve. Foragers are rarely malnourished and overall much healthier than agriculturalists. This was the rule until very, very recently. All these point that the whole “Survival of the Fittest” is sketchier than it sounds.
The Darwinian worldview
Darwin describes a specific life: the life at the bottom. The life that forfeits everything just to survive. His theory is incredibly accurate there. We claim that there is life beyond the bottom, life that is thriving. Darwin’s own view of the world was heavily distorted by the historical period. Because this was England during the Industrial Revolution: Slums filled with filthy people. No cleaning and health standards, with people working 16-hour days in terrifying conditions.
Yes, in this setting, Darwin is 100% correct. But saying that this is human nature is quite a stretch. For any person or slice of population, forfeiting all dignity just to get by, Darwin works as a prior assumption and not as a predictive device. These populations have already accepted those Malthusian conditions (that make Darwin work) just from their mode of living. Darwin didn’t force them into it.
Darwin’s horrifying assumptions do exist today and in history. But history is also full of heroic rebellions, last stands of people sacrificing everything to defend their ideals, traditions, and culture. Even at the animal level, there are countless examples of species that refuse to breed in a zoo, famously, the white tigers∗. This is certainly not S&R.
Battle for space
Let’s discuss another framework for explaining life. Hereditary without S&R. Heredity is indisputable and cannot be overlooked in any model respecting itself. The driver of it is up for debate. Let’s start looking at the driver as a Battle for Space [Bronze Age Mindset – BAP].
If there is free “space” (i.e., resources and energy), it will either become more life in the form of organisms, or it will be used by some organism to develop their abilities. Spare resources will either be used in a Malthus-esque way to increase population, think of it like the ecosystem’s carrying capacity. Or the organisms themselves need more resources than their fair share to develop their abilities. Hence, what would be extra “organic life” is used instead as competence in the organism.
This makes sense, assuming learning curves in any obtained skill (i.e., not hardwired behavior). For example, to become an expert shooter and win the Olympics (skill and ability), you need years in training using ammo to shoot at dummies (resources). But the work to make dummies and the ammo could have been used, in theory, to produce food, which is more “life”.
Battle for Space in Humans
The creative step is to claim that these dynamics play out in humans. There are humans who, if you feed them resources, will just expand their populations, achieving nothing. The so-called “life of the yeast” – it just expands amorphously. But some humans will use resources to develop their abilities. The latter part is what we call Beauty.
Therefore, in itself, beauty is a mindset. It is a mindset of using resources to develop one’s own skills. It is the same train of thought that rejects mediocrity. Maybe beauty is the rejection of mediocrity itself. Beauty itself presupposes a non-stressed life. When humans face existential threats, there can be no true Beauty. There is no time or resources for it.
There is a world of difference between life at the bottom and life that is thriving. The reason is biological and exists in nature. Higher animals, like the wolf, use resources to develop their skills. The life of the wolf is not the same as the life of the rabbit or the fly. There is a qualitative difference. Surviving for the sake of surviving is not worth it, as the Ancient Greeks say. Remember this when you stumble into any Blue Pill version that edges you into mediocrity and conformity.
The chicken or the egg
With this definition of Beauty, we achieved something that biological determinism always misses. Our beauty is contextual and relative. It is relative to the available resources and the society’s (resource) context. This matters! Because we avoid the argument that culture builds on top of biology. This is where all evolutionary arguments end up. Biology shapes culture and culture shapes biology. Instead, we are beyond that.
Our beauty is biologically driven; the need to occupy space, but it is not relative to culture. It is relative to the environment and the resources it provides! Both culture and Beauty can take input from the environment and resources, but there is no causation between them. This is a subtle but important difference. In a sense, there are two perpendicular axes intermixing. On one side, we have biology and culture, interlocked and self-propagating deterministically. On the other side, there is Beauty arising from biology and resources. This second axis is perpendicular to the first; it is pulling it away from continuing on a straight line. This is the whole point!
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
Well, there is the good old saying that the seduction community is the self-help community in disguise. It holds true due to paradox of hedonism. Swimming in unlimited pussy = happiness – is a truism that doesn’t stand to scrutiny. Just look for Hollywood actors or rockstars ending up as drug addict recks.
What red pill does, is that it creates a crack in the matrix. For the first time the uninitiated reader can use science to understand the world. Check my article for the history of thought to get a better grasp on this. Well, dear friend, scientists and critical thinkers didn’t wait for the 21st century to appear. Instead, what happened in our age is that the availability of information became easier via the internet. What didn’t happen is that the masses used this opportunity to educate themselves over watching cat videos.
Renaissance brought a seismic revolution to the world by rediscovering ancient Greek philosophy. The main perpetrators were the Medici in Italy. As you can imagine this wasn’t an easy process. Cosimo Medici would travel between countries in search of ancient scrolls. He did all this during his early teens. By the end of his adventure, he can probably be single handedly credited for lifting the world out of the dark ages. Here is his statue, in all his greatness, holding a scroll instead of sword. A symbol of education and the greatness of the mind. Be that guy, be like Cosimo.
Beautiful
Well, Red pill is step one, but what about other topics outside of the man to woman relations. I had taken a personal challenge since last March to read as many books as possible. They had to be science and only science. I managed about 95 in 18 months – I am quite happy on this. Here is a collection of my book recommendations. I kept it short, only recommending the ones that had the most impact on me. In addition the recommended reading page is officially online in the site menu.
Game – Daygame
Well, we are all here to get laid, ain’t we ?
Mystery Method – Erik von Markovic
Daygame Mastery and Infinite – Nick Krauser
Rational Male series – Rollo Tomassi
Death by a Thousand Sluts series – John Bodi (if you lean towards mazochism)
Practical female psychology for the practical man – David Claire
Neuroscience
Evolution and neuroscience are the most important tools of understanding human nature.
How Emotions are made – Lissa Barret, a good intro into neuroscience
Behave – Robert Sapolsky, epic on science of behaviour from many angles
Habits of a happy Brain – Lorreta Breuning, a masterclass on happiness
A brief history of Intelligence – Max Bennet
The master and his emissary – Ian McGillChrist, heavy, leave for last
Evolution
The Red Queen – Matt Riddley, as Roissy says “The red pill”
The Selfish Gene – Richard Dawkins
The Ape that understood the Universe – Steve Williams, best intro book.
History and Sociology
If you are dumbfounded by Red pill, you have no idea how deep critically explained history goes
The WEIRDest people in the world – Joseph Heinrich
Leviathan and its enemies – Francis Samuel, the Managerial Revolution explained
Philosophy
Philosophy is the history of thought. If you are impressed by neuroscience discovering one thing or another, they usually just prove some philosopher and his metaphysics. For example the unconscious, formally limbic and reptilian brain, is what Schopenhauer describes as “will”.
The story of Philosophy – Will Durant, the only overview you will ever need
The Dawn of Everything – David Graeber, Red pill of modern economics
Selective breeding and the Birth of Philosophy & Bronze Age Mindset – both from Bronze age pervert
Women and Power in History – Amaury de Riencourt, the philosophy of myth
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
Making a coherent model for the Inner Game of approaching is among the most crucial developments of the Player. The approaching is just too emotionally loaded for people to handle, and ego traps are ten-a-penny.
This is all amplified by social media flash game. It is accurate to say that 99% of both infields and short-form content out there is trash and manipulative. Manipulation is aimed at convincing the audience that the Player in question has control and choice over his romantic options.
The reality of things is that control comes from limiting your options. You are asking the girl to enter your frame more deeply. This is the only possible definition of control and pursuing it, categorically, lowers your chances of success.
The same applies to choice: by definition, choice comes from either of 1) Lowering your standards, 2) Excessive hard work, or 3) Luck. That is it. It cannot be anything else, because males are not evolved for choice. Our evolutionary strategy is expansive. Sperm is cheap. We are not supposed to reject girls. If we have to choose, it is by definition, mismanagement.
The Meta-Frame of Advanced Game
Advanced Game is neither about control nor choice, albeit it offers both in the end. It is about calibration and adaptation to the girl. The goal is either to increase your chances of bedding her or meeting more girls so that you have a higher likelihood of bedding them. Having 10 dates with gold diggers that you have to screen out so you can declare your “standards” is not Game; it’s stupidity. You shouldn’t have opened them, or you should have screened them faster.
People shy away from this realization and fall into the choice/control ego trap because it feeds Game’s true purpose. What we really want out of Game is not unlimited access to pussy, it is power over our love lives. This is the root cause of evil, because choice and control are meant to signify power. But they are not power itself, they are derivatives of pre-existing power. Hence, it is about confusing appearance for substance! That is why it is common to see beginners, intermediates, and even advanced Players completely collapse after a string of bad results. The choice/control narrative fosters what is expressed in the following metaphor:
You are going to an ice cream shop with the expectation of buying fruit. You cannot buy fruit there, so you end up with a strawberry ice cream. It tastes like a strawberry, but it is not a strawberry.
In short, wrong expectations and a deep misunderstanding of the Game’s strategy.
What is Cold Approach? What is Daygame?
The discussion has to begin with “what is Daygame”. I personally object to both Brooding Sea’s idea of perfection and Thomas Crown’s idea of value exchange. The first is hyper-focused on Daygame as a skill to be perfected. The second focused on Sexual Marketplace fatalism, with a stubbornness on fair value exchange. Albeit both of these viewpoints can have advantages. The perfection version is pushing for skill acquisition, and the marketplace version is being very pragmatic.
In my opinion, Game is a value delivery mechanism, as expressed in Krauser’s Mastery. The Value can be present in the man, but unless it is delivered, it is useless. You can be a finance bro with a ripped body, but unless you can showcase this effectively in an appropriate amount of time to the girl, the advantages might as well not exist. It doesn’t matter that you have them.
That was Game as a concept in general, now what is Daygame itself? Daygame itself is the strategy we employ for our value delivery mechanism. The street stop and the pitch serve this purpose. But understand this: it is a strategy out of many possibilities, a system that also happens to work. For example, becoming a CEO or a rockstar handles the task of finding leads, advertising your Value, and delivering girls to your bed equally effectively.
All in all, there is Game to be learned and done, contrary to marketplace school. But Game serves a purpose, and it is not an abstract competitive ladder, contrary to the perfection school.
The Value Delivery Strategy
Let us see how this value delivery strategy plays out. Daygame, the London Daygame Model (LDM) at least, inherits three viewpoints:
Spontaneity is what makes it a cold approach. Actually, it is the coldest form of cold approach. But the effects of that spontaneity are not usually discussed. Spontaneity is a measure of your prior value in the eyes of the girl. Actually, this means that spontaneity is inversely proportional to your prior value in her eyes.
When you stop the girl in the street, you literally have no prior value. In contrast with Nightgame, at the club, you are playing the entire room, not the set. When the girl meets you at 1 am, she has had 2 hours to observe your behaviour before you open.
In Daygame, this is impossible. Non-verbals and nice grooming can carry some of the weight, but let’s not kid ourselves. We are exposed to much more response variance than other forms of Game. We can do everything “right”, but at the moment of the approach, still get the nastiest of blowouts. Simply because it was the wrong girl at the wrong time.
Charisma-based
Let us now audit the value expression. Daygame tunnel-visions on charismatic value. Sure, charisma can get us far, but it is not the only attractive form of value. Lifestyle, social dominance, etc., are equally effective and efficient. Therefore, not every girl will bite on our value proposition, and not every guy can showcase value like this.
In fact, the majority of girls are not interested, and the ones who do will probably be introverted and feminine. If the practitioner is not interested in this demographic, this is catastrophic.
Direct
Finally, Daygame is direct. It is what has been called R-selected. The technique is developed with a focus on fast, consequence-free sex. It is intentionally designed to filter for horny girls efficiently. It strips away aspects of the seduction process. For example, we don’t meet her social circle, and we don’t showcase our lifestyle. The statement of sexual interest is delivered early (directness), and escalation is fast-paced.
These are effective at getting girls into our bed, but they are massive filters. Not all girls will be down, and even if they do, they might be down for the one-and-done and not for the dating that comes after. Therefore, the blowout ratio is by design. If the Player wants friendly chats, higher date conversion, or a relationship, other forms of Game might be better.
It stands to reason that learning a skillset is efficient only if we use that skillset often. For the people looking for just a wife or a girlfriend, why go into all this trouble? Never forget Daygame’s premises.
Realistic expectation vs Fiction
To summarise, in Daygame, we have to deal with the increased variance and the limiting factors of our value proposition. Daygamers love abstraction, and Krauser made the Interested-Available axis. I highly recommend his material; the predictive power of that model is very high.
However, our angle of analysis is a tad different. The point is that for a girl to stop and flirt, she has to be both interested and available on some level. The other ones won’t, and we also don’t and shouldn’t want them to do so. Given the variance, the girls who are both highly interested and highly available will be rare. In particular, if we are only assessing by lays, then they will be at a minimum of 1 in 30 sets. I repeat: that is at minimum.
It doesn’t matter if you got her phone number or you went on a date. If your dick didn’t go into her for all intents and purposes, it is the same as a 20-second blowout. Here is where the cracks of the popular narrative begin to show. When you hear the crazy stories, notice how often they are about a number or a date, not about a lay. By themselves, they mean jack-shit. Winning is winning, and losing is losing. To nail the point, here is a poker analogy: it doesn’t matter if you win a pot with a Royal flush or 10-high; what matters is what was in the pot. A 20-minute flat set means nothing compared to a 2-minute sexually charged set. And it doesn’t matter if it took 10 blowouts to get there. What matters is that you found the set.
Pre-approach into Perspective
We arrive at the bird’s-eye view of calibration and pre-approach. As described earlier, the information we seek before opening is on her availability and her interest level. That information is not always available. Access to it is highly valuable, especially for Player statistics. This means, sometimes, even high stats are smoke and mirrors. There is a world of difference between true cold-calling and some prior intel. This is why even A/L is not always indicative of skill level (albeit this statement is pushing it).
Availability is usually gauged through a pre-approach filter. For example, openness to the world, speed of walking, or her ovulation window. Interest level is gauged by IOIs. For example, a flirty look or a quick eye sparkle.
But this is not the best way to find out her Interest and Availability. The most efficient way to find out is to go and stop her. You will get the answers. It is okay to go and get blown out. Getting blown out is an outcome of your value, vibe, and variance, none of which is under control at the moment of the street stop. As long as you are not failing at the Game fundamentals (lack of technical skill), her response is beyond your control; your responsibility ends here. Over-analyzing only burns emotional energy.
The Monk
In short, nothing guarantees the girl will stop and talk to you, and if she doesn’t stop, you cannot “play”. There is nothing you can do about it; you should accept this. This is Game Stoicism at its highest form. It doesn’t matter if the good set comes in 10, 20, or 100 approaches; the opportunities eventually will come.
Tom Torero pioneered poker analogies, and they hold. It doesn’t matter when you will get a playable hand in poker; you have to fold most hands. What matters is how you play that hand once it inevitably arises. If a Daygamer complains about getting 10 blowouts, it is akin to a poker player full-tilting after being card dead for 1 hour. Do you not see the stupidity behind this?
Of course, what makes Daygame blowouts harder is that your ego is involved, but state control is fundamental in Game anyway. Better learn it sooner than later.
Bottom Line
Accept that the majority of factors determining whether a girl will stop or not are outside your control. That is okay, and it is by design. It is by the strategy of Daygame and the value proposition it provides to the girls.
The good news: it is also irrelevant if you need 10 or 100 approaches for a lay. The upside of winning in Game is tremendous. I would even go so far as to say that the guy getting irregular lays is happier. To him, they mean more than to the advanced guy, measured by how much they change his life.
Of course, don’t even think of striving for worse results, but I am being pragmatic here. Just understanding the correct thought patterns can help you plow through the rough times and focus on the areas that will improve your Game.
Finally, I want to reassure the reader that we all get cold periods — there is an argument that Daygame results happen in bursts — so learning to brave fruitless periods is a mandatory skill in the long run.
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
In this blog, I will try to stray away from lay reports. There is an argument to be made that Game concepts can be passed on effectively through lay reports. There are actually 6 volumes of Krauser’s memoirs to be made on this point. However, even if that is true, I am against the concept fundamentally. Game is about action and self-discovery. Lay reports are living another person’s story. It is the opposite of what Game should be. The second hander in Ayn Rand’s words. That being said, I will make an exception for my recent SDL as it makes a good case for the reality of Athens Daygame.
Athens never ceases to amaze me with its non-traditional Daygame. This place requires balls of steel and unshakable confidence. On the surface, my stats for the year are stellar. I have done a grand total of around 15 sets. A prolonged heat wave and a 1 month trip barely allowed volume. These 15 sets resulted in 2 idates and a date. With the final idate turning into a 2-hour SDL.
Cool, sounds like slaying it left and right. What the stats don’t say is that the other 12 girls barely stopped. It is a feature of Athens. I have a full post analyzing Daygame here, but the core dynamics are as follows:
There are no Universities around.
The daygamable demographics reduce to tourists and Greeks working in Tourism.
Both groups are incredibly flakey. With the Greeks themselves leaning into mannerless hustle mentality.
The tourists stay for 1-3 days in Athens
There you have it. Greeks, that you are really not that keen to date – hot, but of really low quality of people. And tourists who allow only r-selected adventure sex. Athens, therefore, is a feast or famine place. There are sets of glory, and there is “taking it on the chin”. If you have the balls and confidence to pull this off here, Athens will provide amazing adventures. Honestly, the hardest (and only real) pitfall is managing your own state.
Regardless, bread and butter daygame this is not. I can barely remember the last time I felt happy about “just” getting a number, and there is a general push for fast escalation. At least my famous 15 date streak without a lay finally ended on the 16th date (albeit, it boggles my mind so many dates happened in only 60-70 approaches).
On to the lay report… Anafiotika is the old school area of Athens. Mid-20th-century architecture of small retro buildings in hues of yellow with rooftop terraces and gardens. A small preserve of Greek spirit before all buildings turned into square blocks. Of course, these buildings are either abandoned or refurbished as cafes and restaurants. The cafes themselves provide terraces with breathtaking views of Acropolis. Truly, an ideal spot for dates.
Corin was walking in a carefree manner, looking at the buildings while also trying to find her way. She was petite, tanned, and surprisingly blessed with amazing assets in the upper and lower departments. I was talking with my friend on the phone, the last 40 minutes, and I hadn’t found any sets, and I was getting bored. “Let me call you in 5 mins,” I tell my friend as I hang up and give chase. Corin opens easily, but I note the distance between us in set. She doesn’t really let me close it yet. Eye contact is good, and conversation is flowing. She is on her second day in Athens and leaves tomorrow. She is after a long day of walking the monuments. After a 5-minute chat, I bounce her to a terrace cafe nearby.
Getting to know each other goes well. After about 10 minutes, is time for some nuclear value display. Athens is filled with history and propositions for intellectual mastery. You can talk about history, philosophy, Christianity, and sociology. Given that the average Greek is an uneducated fuck, and tourist guides only go surface level. A full-blown analysis of Plato’s philosophy, the ideas of aristocracy, and how that shaped our society goes a long way. I kept the narration practical, relatable, and colourful. After 5-10 minutes of this, it is time to capitalize on the attraction. How do we capitalize? We escalate!
I told her to come sit next to me to watch the Acropolis view. Kino turns good, but is limited to touching and progressively hugging. Now it is time for some deep connection and bonding. By this moment, I can deconstruct her character and have educated insights into her personality. Bonding really is just deep understanding and acceptance of each other. So… just feed her character back into her. I tell her I know her character. I teasefully (and correctly) predict how she would react in different imaginary settings, what her role is in her friend group, etc.
Attraction and comfort are mostly done. I ramp up the verbal escalation to go for the kiss soon. There is some light shit testing on how guys unsuccessfully hit on her. Well, I am not like most guys, and I go for the kiss. Rebuffed.
She is Asian, and Asian escalation is on amber. It’s your responsibility to calibrate where you are in set. I know this girl likes me, so her rejection is just BS. I look around… of course, the place is too public. We are about 50 minutes in by this point. We finish our tea, we pay, and I take her for a walk. On the first opportunity, I find a calmer spot and get the kiss. We stroll a little bit more and kissing turns into make out. Time to extract.
I was planning to get to her hotel, but she lives in a hostel. Yikes. At least I have done some good work seeding my area, so I suggest a tea at my place. I lead to a taxi and she follows. A nice 20 euros and 30 mins later, we are at my place. At this point, the lay is certain. I just run comfort, ramp up seduction talk, and into the bedroom. No LMR. After sex, we cuddle for a bit. It is getting late, and she has an early flight, so I return her to her hostel.
I check my watch and the time is midnight. I met this girl at about 8.30pm. I have a cheeky grin as I am ordering dinner and ruminating on the meaning of secret society. I met this girl, had sex with her, and returned her home in 3.5 hours. I will probably never see her again. The interaction was value-add on both sides. In such a short time, somewhere in Athens, there was a special spark of adventure. A gust of feelings. When the wind settled and adventure sex was over, everything looked the same. The world was still going forward like clockwork. We had created a special bubble of adventure, and at the end, none was the wiser.
A few minutes later, my phone buzzed. Corin thanked me for a wonderful day and wished me goodnight.
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
Regular readers will have noticed the lack of posts in the last month. Well, dear readers, thank you for asking. I am alive and well. In particular, I was in a month-long trip with a girl. She flew all the way from a different continent just to meet me. This is after a 6-month-long absence since we last saw each other in person. Of course, a strong text game was a factor in this. However, the topic of today is the value of the girl. A rare glimpse into the reality of the upper tier of women.
When I had met her, she was an 8. Tall, curvy, and really knows how to dress. In Europe, however, she was a 9. These are some big claims, so let’s analyze it more. The attractiveness of the girl is really a subjective topic. Specifically, it is a long-standing tradition that a girl gains 1 point of hotness the moment your dick goes into her. All in all, the topic is a mess. To circumvent this, the early daygamers built a system based on the status a girl gives you.
For 5 and lower your dick doesn’t go up
A 6 is a girl you don’t show around
A 7 is a neutral feeling carrying her around
At 8 you are proud to show her around
At 9 people are checking her (… and you) constantly when you carry her around
I always rated girls like this, so now my claim that “she became a 9 when she came to Europe” comes from her exotic appearance. Everyone, and I mean everyone, was checking us out.
The trip lasted for a full month, and I got to see her reaction to attention firsthand. And the “pick up” attempts on her. For the last part, people should really not be worried about others hitting on their girls. Once a girl is strongly into your reality, she will never shop around. This will last as long as your ID and frame control are on point. Girls don’t cheat without giving ample signals about it. That is an EvoPsych myth, probably based on observing sexless marriages and Betas.
With this out of the way, let’s establish some aspects particular to the girl before attempting to generalise. This girl is a frame control addict. Of course, in the sense of constant shit tests. We are talking in a 24/7 barrage. A full artillery line-up. A constant Mongol horde attack. Roissy (Heartiste) has described something close to this by the “Lawyer chick”. This has nothing to do with her “value”; it has to do with her sex drive. We are talking about a sex addict here. The shit tests were aimed at her getting fucked. The cycle goes like this:
Cause drama
Get wet from masterful frame control (i.e. shit test handling)
Get sex
All in all, we are talking 4 times per day, every day. I had to start turning her down. I just couldn’t keep up.
To understand the dynamics, read “Practical Female for the Practical Man”. The book is a must in my opinion, and he analyzes the matrix of sex drive/confidence and its behavioral effects. My last remark here is that this girl is not a “slut”. She is a sex addict after she finds a suitable guy. Not ANY guy. Seasoned players should have noticed the effect they have on their girls’ sex drive. Competent Game is really like a switch turning her on.
Warning !! The paragraph above reads easy. But it’s a common pitfall to associate shit tests with things going downhill. In this case, the shit test was part of the experience. This girl operates like that. Imagine coming to a situation like this with the (mostly) American frame, “this is me, and if people don’t like it, they can f* off”. The tough guy with values mentality. This is not Game, Game is reacting to the situation strategically and adapting to the girl, not the other way. The latter makes the path to sex always more limited, essentially filtering.
With that being said, a girl like this is not LTR material. Not even a mini one at that. Enjoy her when the sex is hot. Keep her at a distance when your frame starts waning. And always, always maintain other options. This is a case where you need to maintain your right to walk away when she becomes unbearable.
Let me now state my observations on her reality.
Attention
Attention is constant. Really attractive girls are indeed first-class citizens. Guys and girls treat them differently. They are both intimidated by her. She doesn’t get free stuff falling on her head. But if she were to ask for anything, she would hardly get a No.
However, it doesn’t matter to her. The only thing she cared about was me and/or other people in the context of our relationship. She is either used to attention, or my Game was that good. I think the former is more likely. It follows the hedonism fallacy, “people get used to everything eventually, no matter how good”. The long-known PUA maxim holds true. Attention and quality attention are not the same thing to girls.
An exaggeration of the above rule is that we are only competing with 5-10% of guys for access to pussy. We are competing with Alphas and naturals only. Betas and Omegas could just be statues as far as competition goes. They will get a post-wall wife and/or a drunk random lay, but that’s it. I got to experience this first hand and now I really believe it.
Value
The other big takeaway is that a girl’s value fluctuates. A girl is not as beautiful when she wakes up, goes for a shit, or burps. When you see a 9, she is a 9 at that moment. I am including this as a reminder for people scared to experiment with approaching upper tiers.
Competence
Girls are girls. No matter how hot they are. Once they fall into your reality, they will depend on you for things going smoothly, and, importantly, for regulating their emotions. This is true for all girls and, more importantly so, for hotter ones.
Well, “… and the sky is blue”, some people will say with the above point. The value is in the corollary, dear reader. Because girls can’t (or don’t want) to add value to their life (the definition of competence), all the value they get from their attractiveness means jack shit. The point is not giving them value, is making it count for them. That is the way a 5 euro snack near the ocean can mean more than 5-star hotels and trips to Dubai. Make it meaningful for them. They will love you for it.
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
How does a Daygame stop work after we free ourselves from the model? It is long known in the community that the LDM is training wheels and eventually everyone freestyles. Hook point is not reached when she asks a question; investment doesn’t need to be long. In my sets, I mostly go by feeling, the building blocks simplify to:
Attraction
Comfort
Running down the clock
That is it. That is the simplified version. For example, my mind might go “I have been teasing for a while now, we need some comfort” or “this is getting too boring now, throw a spike”. The actual goal of the set is to impose the seduction frame (social and sexual attraction), and what is happening is “real” (comfort). When the girl accepts it (this can be 2 or 10 minutes), it is time to ask for the number or proceed with an idate.
The intro above showcases how hard it is to explain advanced daygame. There can only be guiding principles that are applied based on the player’s calibration. In this essay, we will focus on one such case – how to structure the conversation itself.
Conversational topics
There is a fundamental skill that is equally important both in the LDM and in the freestyle paradigm. It is the basis of how we conduct conversations in set. I believe that the conversation should be personal. That’s it. It is about you and the girl; everything else revolves around that. For example, that river over there is not calming because “it reminds you of a painting in a museum”; instead, it is because “you and she are getting the feeling you are in Amsterdam canals”. Her hobby of reading books or watching TV is not about the hobby; it is about what it says about her character. The meaning behind the actions.
That is the big reveal. Keep the conversation about you and her. At the date, you can diverge into DHV stories, but focus on analyzing the social context and the feelings from these stories.
The concept itself is no secret in the Daygame community. John Bodi was on this, calling it digital vs analog communication. Forget abstract ideas. Stop explaining choices on rational decision-making. Stop analyzing concepts on logic. Conversation, from street stop to date to lay, should always be emotional and colorful. And all topics become even more emotional and colorful when it’s about you, her, and your relationship.
Even Krauser’s intellectual mastery is more about the security feeling the girl gets about your knowledge and worldview (frame) rather than your actual world. Case in point, actual testimonial from a girl, “I have no clue what you are saying, but I love hearing you talk”. Let us now then make a case for this colorful, personal, and emotional talk.
The Background
In the West, especially people in STEM, we are trained to listen to logic rather than emotion. Actually, the whole of Modernity pushes for this because of our materialistic focus.
Aside: Materialism is a philosophical term. It is the focus on objects as the only source of truth. For example, Science is materialistic because all scientific truth has to be testable empirically and repeatably.
In reality, without emotions, there is no decision-making. There is a famous example about a person with damage in the vm-PFC (emotional center in the brain), who couldn’t make any decisions [Brain – David Eagleman]. She couldn’t make decisions, because no decision can be made fully on logic. Emotion guides logic. The vm-PFC itself is theorised to work by making simulations of potential futures and interpreting outcomes based on emotional responses [The Master and his Emissary – Ian McGillChrist].
Information Transmission in Game
Information itself is transmitted both logically and emotionally equally well. To drill the point, let us give an example. Assume the message is “Bears are dangerous”.
One approach – logic – is to throw survival statistics from face-to-face contact with bears. The second approach – emotional – is to paint a picture of a bear chasing your listener in the woods while making growling sounds. The listener will feel the danger and get the message equally well.
Okay, if there is a point for emotional talk, then why don’t we always talk emotionally, even at work? We won’t argue against the benefits of logic; that is proven through Science and Industrialism. But we will argue why it is preferable in Game.
The first argument is about Solipsism, introduced by the one and only Rollo Tomassi. In short, girls never doubt their worldview. If it makes sense in their head, then it is true, regardless of whether it holds in nature. Girls tend not to second-guess either their worldview or their thoughts.
The second argument is that female communication is about relationships and feelings [Practical Female Psychology]. The female brain is just designed to respond to that. There is even a BBC documentary [ BBC Secrets of the Sexes – Ep1] that showcases the phenomenon:
[Excuse the Chinese subs. It is hard to find old documentaries]
Watch until around minute 7
Participants are meant to be transported to the experiment location, but the driver is on the trick. He has a scripted conversation that covers factual and emotional topics. When they arrive, they are asked comprehension questions for the discussion.
Men remember all the facts of the conversation. For example, information about banks, the car, or about London. Women are oblivious to those, but remember all the relationship information: the driver’s kids, his divorce, the gossip. It is actually staggering how deaf women were on the logical and fact-based communication. And also staggering how deaf men were in the relationship and emotional communication.
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
Keeping stats was always easy for me. Even if I don’t write them down, I maintain a mental image in my head. The good news, I have my stats from when I was learning daygame.
I strongly believe that the “learning” part of daygame is quite fast. Learning means the ability to lead the interaction on the street/date correctly to its natural conclusion (regardless of getting the close or not). Personally, I believe I “learned” daygame in just one month. Any advancement beyond that was associated with my value and my vibe.
Let us then analyze my early learning curve. I will give a full disclaimer. My personality is made for daygame. I enjoy the process, the cold reading, the teasing, and the fact of making something out of nothing. I am an introvert, and I cannot stand nightclubs or social circles. Having said that, I started from a low point. I was just way too young and had no “value”.
In my opinion, there is only one requirement for learning Game: you cannot half-ass it. It needs to be an intense process of high volume. Game is not a hobbyist pastime. Eventually, you will need to change your entire life, from the outer (appearance, friends, hobbies) to the inner (mentality, ambitions, worldview). This change just doesn’t happen with a few sets here and a few sets there. The dirty secret of the PUA community is that Game is not about the lays. It is about control over your life. This means control over your love life. Mother nature did make us incomplete without regular sex (testosterone) and without some partner variety (dopamine).
The stats I will showcase here start at my 6th week in Game. I had done 200 sets and I had 3 dates and 1 near miss to show for it (as I said, I started low). I had decided to take a month’s vacation in London in a July. I set a goal of at least 10 approaches a day for a full month. As the stats will show, this wasn’t easy, but there was measurable growth. I actually don’t recommend this approach for everyone. I had a mental breakdown (actual inner game growth) every week, but I was able to digest it due to my personality. Here are the month’s stats:
Week 6
Number of approaches: 83 Total approaches: 280
Numbers: 8 Dates: 1 idates:1
Week 7
Number of approaches: 79 Total approaches: 359
Numbers: 11 Dates:1
Week 8
Number of approaches: 44 Total approaches: 403
Numbers: 9 Dates: 2
Week 9
Number of approaches: 28 Total approaches: 431
Numbers: 7 iDates: 1 Dates: 2 Lays: 1
Analysis
As you can see, there was progress. Very slow, but real progress. As for all beginners, progress is measured in numbers. In the first week, i had less than 1/10, all the way down to 1/4 in the last week.
This was my journey to my first-ever daygame lay. It would take a full year more until I was able to get regular lays from daygame, but the hard part of beginner’s daygame was in the past now. From that moment, I could expect to hit the streets and get some results (not a constant string of rejections at least).
The takeaway is that Game is hard and Daygame is harder. We won’t get lucky lays from DTF girls who drink alcohol. In particular, I would even go as far as to say that without at least some above-average competence, you won’t get a Daygame lay at all. Leading an interaction from the street to the date to the bounce back is just too hard for the average person.
At least, for this moment in my story, the sky was a little bit more blue and the grass a little bit greener. I even returned to London next week to redline my newly acquired skillset. Here are the results over 75 sets!
Week 10
Number of approaches: 75 Total approaches: 506
Numbers: 22 FB: 4 (2 replied) Dates:1 Near misses: 1
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here:
It is mandatory for every daygame blog to have a stats section. It is a ritual and a mark of the community. I started daygame in a June, so I track the year from June to June. Here are mine:
Approaches: 230 – 120 in CITY_1 city and 110 in CITY_2
Numbers: No idea, I know it was around 30-40 in CITY_1
Dates: 33, specifically 12 in CITY_1 (8 dates, 4 idates), and 21 in CITY_2 (6 dates and 15 idates)
Near misses: 3 – 1 in CITY_1 and 2 in CITY_2
Lays: 4 (one 8, two 7s and one 6)
This comes out to 1 lay per 57.5 sets. Which is about intermediate daygame. As always, stats by themselves are half the story. We will give a lot more context to the analysis.
Overall, this was a year of tremendous growth. I am not the same person as last year. There was great adversity; this was not optimized daygame. Just compare my A/L ratio to the previous year in CITY_3 on the same country: I had a city center apartment and 10 lays in 320 sets. One of this year’s girls has stuck as an LTR, and I am happy with that. Additionally, I only had about 4 months of real daygame time. The rest of the year, I was under tremendous work stress or traveling with LTRs.
Finally, as it will be stated later, CITY_2 has been the high point of the year. I have achieved things I never thought possible. Total suspension of disbelief. Prior to this year, I had done about 8 idates total. This year I have done 19. I used to have one idate kiss close. Now I have done 9 more. I had my first SDL. I had 3 very close SDDLs and also one SDL near miss. I have kissed 4 girls in under 30 minutes of knowing them. I even made a girl cry purely from deep rapport in a date. But… logistics were never on my side, so a lot of these make nice stories, but never materialized into lays.
CITY_1
The start of the daygame year found me in CITY_1. As a theme of this year, I was living 1 hour and 30km away from the daygamable area. I was crushed by work, not a psychological high point. Specifically, this city is my Achilles heel; I never managed to properly settle. Between work stress and a god-awful housing market, for the most part, I was a shell of a man.
Adverse logistics made me practice idates. My philosophy in idates is to carry on as long as possible. I am not fine with the 10-minute coffee chat. Out of the 19 idates this year, only 3 or 4 lasted less than one hour. Everything else was, for all intents and purposes, a full date with the texting part skipped.
The combination of the factors explained above made my inner game a rollercoaster with ups and downs. My actual game followed suit. I had some of the craziest experiences. Including my fastest lay ever in just 45 minutes from saying hi at the start of the date to sex.
I lost multiple girls in the transition from the first date (in the city center) to the second date (in my area). But for the most part, it wasn’t a nice experience. Compared to other places in CITY_1, this place felt it had a higher percentage of closed-off people. More Asians who don’t acknowledge your existence. Higher flake rates, at some point I had 14 in a row – for the love of God, avoid the Japanese and the Thais, they ain’t replying back.
Eventually, I learned I had to move to CITY_2 for work and so I settled into a mini LTR for the last months in CITY_1.
CITY_2
I arrived in CITY_2 in the middle of winter, with a bitter taste of daygame in my mouth. CITY_1 hadn’t been a failure, but it had been really unpleasant overall. More like a long grind. But I wasn’t ready for CITY_2.
This time, I was living even further away from the daygameble area, a full 1.30 hours away. Metro doesn’t even serve my area. At least it is only 20 euros away by taxi. As I quickly realised, the CITY_2 city center is flocked by tourists and lacks students. There are positives and negatives on this, but all in all, it makes logistics really hard. CITY_2 is a 1-3 day destination as a stopover before people go island hopping. The normal daygame sequence of number into date into home doesn’t work. It is about sex right here right now, or bust. At this point, I had barely done any idates and I had never had a SDL. I had only kissed two girls from idates. All in all, I felt CITY_2 was a fool’s errand. I started daygaming halfheartedly, just waiting for the imminent mental breakdown to arrive.
Boy oh boy, I was in for a treat. Every preconception and limiting belief I had about daygame and seduction was destroyed. Viva la daygame.
My first lay came just 35 sets in, on my second proper date. It was a 1.30-hour lay. I had my first SDL near miss, just a 1-hour bounce back. I had already achieved 3 idate kiss closes in CITY_2. One of them is just 20 mins in. The moment I decided to accept the reality of CITY_2 daygame and go balls deep into the idate-SDL sequence, the world opened up to me.
This didn’t happen by chance. I was always redlining dates. Pushing for faster escalation. Not riskier per se, but I wanted to learn the skillset. By extension, I had to learn the boundaries. This culminated in the fact that at this point, I have had more near misses (at a proud 17) than lays (at a proud 16). In CITY_2, something clicked, and I finally worked myself around ultra-fast escalation. Something on the lines of Krauser’s “Girl junkie”, 2015 daygame memoir.
The second lay came just 25 sets later, and it was my first ever SDL. It was a 1.30-hour date before the taxi bounce-back. I saw her again a few days later, and it was the first time I had sex in a coffee shop’s toilets (of the clean variety).
Since then, I have done another 40-50 sets with a whopping 13 dates coming out of it. Half of them I kissed. Two of them culminated in me taking their tits out in side streets, but logistics never lined up for a lay. I can count 5 sets that would have been a high likelihood lay given better logistics or more time. But they weren’t there. My best sets didn’t even have time to come out on a date. Such is life. Every girl in CITY_2 has three magic words for you: “I leave tomorrow”, and the reality of things is that most girls are not up for ultra-fast SDLs, even if they are happy to fool around.
Conclusion
All in all, I am really happy with this year. I broke every personal record, lived some crazy adventures. Hell, I am typing this after finishing a week of 10 new first dates.
My stats are exactly what they should be. The magic A/L of 1:30 doesn’t come magically and in any setting. It comes from perfect logistics and exquisite vibe, i.e., old town apartments, while traveling in Eastern Europe. In contrast, I live way too far from the daygame action, and the majority of the days I can’t even leave work for a minute.
I know my date-to-lay ratio is horrendous, but no game can make a girl horny for fast SDLs unless she has a predisposition for it. I weighed my chances and attempted to make something out of nothing. It’s silly to suggest doing fewer dates to make my stats look better. The opportunities presented themselves, and I took them to their natural conclusion.
This essay explores one aspect of a larger structure. On its own, it stands, but it is not the whole model.
The book connects these pieces into a single structure: frame, value, power, escalation, calibration — not as advice, but as a theory of how the Game actually works.
If you want the complete system rather than individual essays, start here: